emails are for trash so I guess they are trash

Going through his email, eh? Between his cheating and your snooping, I hope you are both good with a roommate relationship, because your romance is in the toilet.

Tough call here. He’s a cheater so he’s a clown, but you went snooping and found what you were looking for and or hoping to find. Guess the FML would be for any nearby neighbor that has to listen to y’all fighting.

Both of you deserve to be alone forever.

Why were you reading his e-mails?

Playing devil's advocate - he may have been having a last hooraa before committing to you. Sounds like mixed logic but if you love each other communicate, forgive and carry on. Cheating is not the end of the world.

Devil’s advocate for OP, but maybe the boyfriend asked her to look for something in his email, and that’s how they came across it? Going through email doesn’t automatically mean snooping.

OP could have had suspicions, or knew it happened but wanted to know when. Or OP could have been like me and use a joint email for Paypal-ing. I have to go in to see our Mortgage billing or 401k password reset stuff. Either way, hmm. It's a win-lose situation. :(

post-nut clarity