She may not be planning to keep it. Even if she is, telling someone not to be stressed for any reason isn't going to help them be less stressed.

I think it's very understandable that she hasn't told her parents. Everyone's parents are different obviously, but considering the fact that OP is quite young and maybe still living at home, it's very possible that her parents aren't going to be over the moon about her pregnancy, in which case OP is probably quite nervous about telling them

Agreed 46. Telling my parents would be the last thing I'd want to do if I found out I was having a kid at 19.

Yes it's nerve racking telling your parents but I also know mine would've been even shittier if I didn't tell them sooner... It'd be the same as anything the longer you wait the worse the reaction... And if she's 11 weeks I think she's probably keeping the baby as 12 weeks is usually cut off for abortion... And I know saying "don't stress" won't make it easier but it's nicer to have positive and nice comments rather then these negative ones !

I don't actually see how telling someone "don't stress" when they have every right to be stressed resembles a positive comment. The negativity here reflects the gravity of the situation...I've known people who were planning to be parents and whose own parents were still happily married who freaked out when they learned of their pregnancies. I can only imagine how shitty OP feels right now. Abortion may still be on the table...OP could have an irregular cycle that prevented her from figuring it out out until just now. She may also be considering adoption, which would involve keeping the pregnancy but not the baby.

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My parents are getting divorced. I am also 19 and pregnant. FML. Stupid much, #48?

1) The answer is in OP's username. 2) Why does it matter how old OP is? Family trauma on top of an unwanted pregnancy sucks no matter how old you are.

So, women who get pregnant when they are 18-21 should feel as though they've done something wrong? I know many young mothers with both unplanned and planned children. They absolutely love their children and their age is irrelevant.

OP clearly did not mean to get pregnant and doesn't want to be pregnant, so she deserves it for not taking precautions to avoid pregnancy.

As others have pointed out, no method of birth control is 100% foolproof, and it is unrealistic (and, I would argue, unhealthy) to expect couples to abstain from sex until they are committed to having a baby together. In the context of this particular comment, I still fail to see how OP's age affects whether or not her life is ******, no matter what protection she was using.

one 20 year old could be in a completely different point in life than another, you can't assume everyone who gets pregnant at 20 will do horribly but someone 21 would be fine. At 20 I was married with a decent career I liked and owned a home. I used birth control pills with a diaphragm and spermicide and still managed to get pregnant. I've managed to go to college while having a kid, there's no reason to assume she won't manage either.

The age thing really outside of the odd exceptions most teens and young adults 25 and under are not stable enough financially or otherwise to support a child. Yes, there are a many that have made it successfully despite the circumstances, but it is a life changing thing and age is a factor as well as a few other things. Also, the impact it would have on the OP's ability to continue her education, finical issues all those things are big things especially when you are young.

Good point, 72, but 54's odd age cutoff was 19 and under vs. 21+. It also seems to me that there's truth to the saying that there's never a good time to have a baby. No matter how old you are, you could be going back to school, changing careers, going through a layoff, etc. Unless you're part of the 1%, there's never going to be a guarantee of constant resources available to have and raise a child risk-free. Most, of course, take this to mean you should just have a kid and do your best, though I take it literally, since I will never be "ready" to have a baby.

Of course that is true. Things could change, just that in general at such a young age most do not have a job or career that would support them at that age or have been working long enough to potentially have a savings account that may let them breathe easier to help make the financial burden easier.

I definitely agree that age is a factor for overall preparedness. I am, in fact, a big proponent of people waiting as long as is biologically possible to have children just so they don't have regrets about the trips they didn't take or whatnot as well as ensure some financial stability for their families. But there are also people out there who have always known they wanted to be parents and either make a young accidental pregnancy work or plan to have kids young and also make it work. I think someone in OP's place who does want kids that badly is going to roll up her sleeves and make it happen, whereas someone like me who doesn't is going to be posting on FML, no matter what her age or status in life is.

Lots of people choose not to have sex until they're married. How could it be unhealthy?

Lots of people choose not to have sex until they're married. How could that possibly be unhealthy?

It's an overused but truthful analogy that you wouldn't want to buy a car without test-driving it first. Sexuality is a huge component of romantic and marital relationships; it's really risky to pledge yourself legally and possibly spiritually to someone who either does nothing for you or, worse yet, makes you shudder. Sure, couples and sex therapy can help sometimes, but only if you have some grounding beforehand, and how do you know you'll have that until you explore some?