There's nothing in the text to suggest OP and the kid's father were not together for a long time before she broke up with her ex'. Women cheat too.

Yes there is. The baby is 4 DAYS old. Think about the timing on that.

I think you may be confused here. Her ex has been off the scene for 11 months, which is 2-months longer than the human gestation period. I agree - but that was not the issue. 19 suggested that the OP had only been with the kid's father for 2 months before getting pregnant but that assumes no overlap. The OP could have been with the kid's father _and_ her "ex" for an extended period so this assumption does not hold because it is founded on the further assumption of monogamy for which we have no basis.

actually human gestation is normally 40 weeks. which is about 10 months. I don't get where the whole 9 months thing came from. she got knocked up a month after leaving her ex.

thank you 47 for pointing that out! my ex was confused about that up till my son was born

Human Gestation is 40 weeks because doctors start counting from your last period, not the day you conceive. 9 months is technically how long you carry a child. 10 months is the length of the pregnancy. doctors do this to have a more universal way to calculate the baby's growth and the mothers needs.

47 Do you not realize that most months are 30 or 31 days and not 4 weeks (28days)? 9 multiplied by 30.5 (let's assume an average) = 274.5 274.5/7 = ~39 weeks, pretty close no?

59 No, we (women rather) do NOT get pregnant with children for 10 months, period. That'd be post-date beyond saving. We calculate from the last menstrual period, which is even before the egg has being released. If anything, we are technically carrying the child less longer than the when we 'start' pregnancy.

The real dad should have thought about that before he had unprotected sex with the OP. He is responsible for that child, regardless of how long he and the mother dated before the child was conceived.

There's 52 weeks in a year so if 40 weeks is 10 months you're saying the other 2 months of the year have 6 weeks each? I don't think so!

Op does seem to be somewhat of a ****. So there definitely is a chance that she knew the real Daddy for a long time before getting pregnant

52/12=4.3 40/4.3= 9.3 so ur average pregnancy is 9.3 months

The baby could have been premature.

I was born about 3.5 months premature

no health lesson needed!!!

#109 Who say's they had unprotected sex? They could've used several birth control methods, they don't always work.

Ummmm i feel kinda dumb for asking...but what is contraception..? o.0

Ummmm i feel kinda dumb for asking...but what is contraception..? o.0

come back to this site when you're old eough to understand the material it contains because you're clearly not if you don't understand a term that is learned in middle school.

Hello this is not match.com

*he is (not genus)

The baby is 4 days old, not 4 years old.

Woops, my bad. The FML makes a lot more sense now. You can ignore my last comment, but I still think that 1) he shouldn't have asked that through a text message, 2) she should have used better contraception.

yea, I thought it said 4 years old at first too

TL;DR.

He didn't wait 4 years, he waited 4 DAYS.

4 days, not years.

how do you know he didn't ditch her then?? you can't assume something you don't know ....

Oh, yes I can. This is FML, not a court of law. If I'm wrong, she says, "I'm not a complete moron. Yay!" If I'm right, well, then it truely is an FML. Also, the ex called her. He's still interested. Unlikely if he dumped her.

But they could have broken up for a wealth of reasons! He may have cheated or take drugs or god knows. Not every man who offers to be a father is necessarily a responsible adult.