By TheFreyzy - 20/02/2015 07:40 - Switzerland

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Today, I had sex with my girlfriend for the first time. Even after several hours I wasn't able to climax. My girlfriend now thinks that I don't like her body, and the reason I couldn't orgasm is because I don't like having sex with her. We spend the rest of the night in silence. FML
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AfroFluff tells us more.

Hello everybody, here is your Afro OP. First I want to say thank you for all the ones who gave me helpful advise, also this happened a while ago. I wanted to see what you guys write because I felt like I am doing something wrong. Thank you guys who wasn't trying to criticise my girlfriend. She did not throw a tantrum, nor was she mad. Some of you are right, she is insecure and that makes her silent. Well let me tell you guys what happened afterwards so I can calm you all down :) We had sex again and again and let me tell you I am less nervous but I am still not able to cum xD. She understands though it has nothing to do with me disliking her body, we had a calm discussion. Thank you again for everybody who was supportive, to be honest I was shy to post my first FML and I did not expect so many people to comment! I am excited for the next post I will make. Who knows what it will be. Afro is with you all!

Top comments

cooltatgar 31

Discuss the matter, try explaining to her what really happened. That's better for your relationship.

I'm sorry for your experience OP. I'm sure she'll come round and be more understanding.

Comments

zoe0401 9

don't worry about it. my now husband and I had an issue with that too. he was not able to climax for over two hours. he was just nervous! hope things get better and more successful!!!

chef4money 12

After reading your update, I highly suggest that you go to the Dr. I know it's embarrassing but not being able to cum sounds like something that you really need to get checked out.

That's a very common conplex, if you're a natural romantic, your subconscious probably doesn't love her. If you've low self esteem, you probably can't as an attribute to shyness. Maybe it's neither and you're just not ready. I'm the earlist one, and I say "I don't need to, all I want is to pleasure you. It provides the illusion of selflessness, when really your motive is to avoid conflict and keep everything going smoothly. No different than any marriage, everyone lies about those sorts of things, and now hopefully you don't have to come to that conclusion on your own.

MzZombicidal 36

That's awful advice. If you're a natural romantic than you should understanf how terrible it can be to lie about the level of love you have for someone. And, believe it or not, some marriages are built on LOVE! WHOAAA! Crazy, right? Also, lying like that to avoid conflict will not keep things running smoothly.

hey better than not being able to last long at all! :)

you could have faked it so her feelings weren't hurt

You do realize that when a guy orgasms, sperm (which is visible) comes out....

Stop fapping to ****. THAT'S the problem.

If at first you don't succeed, try, try again...

Gordon_Fung 6

Just have sex again. And this time.. Explode

Lose my virginity today too! Let's be friends.

Sometimes you just can't get off happens to me any time I'm with a woman