By WildChildRocker - 28/10/2015 17:00 - United States - New York

Today, I knocked a girl lightly in the head with a prop at a costume party. I apologized profusely to the drama queen as she walked away blinking and holding her head. My boyfriend then told me that she had recently had brain surgery and it was hard for her to even leave the house. FML
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WildChildRocker tells us more.

Hi everyone! OP here. We were out at a nightclub for a Halloween event. I was standing at the edge of the dance floor talking to my boyfriend and the girl was behind me where I couldn't see her. I was carrying a cardboard hammer and I moved it and felt it touch something, then turned around and saw this girl cringing. I apologized two or three times and gave her a hug. As some people guessed, I referred to her as a "drama queen" only here, and it was to show what I thought before I knew that she had had surgery; a person who was in good physical health wouldn't have reacted so strongly to such a light tap. I did not hit her on purpose, and I certainly didn't think she was a drama queen after hearing what happened to her. Thanks for the comments!

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Why was she at a party right after brain surgery?!

You couldn't have known OP, accidents happen. Plus, why was she there if she just had brain surgery?

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BeenIt 5

But why is she a 'drama queen'? You should be more careful!!!

How were you supposed to know that? Don't feel too bad.

I actually had a craniotomy last summer. After three days in ICU you are sent home. You are encouraged to take it easy for a month and then ease back into your routine, although you must keep your head covered in sunlight, protect it, etc. My craniotomy was in July. I was at a Halloween party that same year

I understand that you didn't know because honestly, that's the last thing I expect to hear at a party. But why call her a drama queen in the first place? That seems a bit rude? All she did was hold her head and I assume did the whole 'head trauma blink' thing. It's not like she got in your face and started screaming about how you 'bludgeoned her' or anything.

bluestripedsockm 14

#29: That's probably what happened, the girl went full-tilt diva when she got hit. People at parties, concerts, sporting events, etcetera tend to overreact or even start fights with others when they think their "good time" is being *remotely* threatened, regardless of how they probably are in the rest of their lives. I've seen it countless times before at the concert venues I work at. I'm reading this as OP knocked into this girl on accident with her prop (most likely made from a light material, say foam) and the girl went into "drama queen mode" - water works, tantrums, and all. This girl's reaction didn't click in OP's head until later when her BF told her. Brain surgery or not, it's still rude to go nuts on someone like that when it was a) most likely an accident and b) OP even "apologized profusely" and made sure she was okay, hence the remark. Should OP have been more mindful of her prop? Yes. Should this girl have probably stayed in that night if she was still that sensitive on her head? Yes.

I find that unlikely. I suffer neuropathy issues from fibromyalgia, so not the same, but when someone causes me pain I usually am first of all too stunned to react beyond saying "Stop!" Especially if it's to the head,I immediately am overtaken with a wave of dizziness and need support or I'll fall. I find it unlikely this girl yelled at OP and was more likely quietly gathering her senses after the initial blow. I think she was probably too busy worrying about her pain and coordination to be yelling at OP.

Where the hell do you get "threw a tantrum" from "blocked and walked away"? Because I can tell you that anyone who was in pain from being knocked lightly on the head wouldn't behave the way you describe because it would quickly put them in too much pain to do so. If anything, the "drama queen" tag came from the person "blinking" back tears as they walked away very quickly because they suddenly felt like their head was going to explode and they didn't take time to tell the OP that it was okay. From my personal experience, people who have genuinely been through painful procedures or experiences are usually not dramatic because they've been through the hell that is having a painful condition taken seriously.

bluestripedsockm 14

From previous observations of people being lightly tapped on the head on accident (myself included), the offhand "drama queen" remark, and little to no experience of dealing with head pain on that level. People are confusingly random - some can just wave it off, make a face/cringe (like this girl did, which to me is not too much of a "drama queen" reaction), or go batshit over being knocked on the head, it can depend on their mood and other factors, like physical health. That was how I interpreted OP's FML until her follow up was posted. Obviously I was way off target.

FYL for not knowing beforehand, but YDI for writing 'drama queen' in your FML, even after knowing what she went through.

I'm assuming she wrote that because that was what she thought when it happened, not once she found out. Chill.

It is probably acceptable behavior, but, in general, a stranger knocking me in a head would annoy the hell out of me.

YDI for knocking people you hardly know on the head

How could op be mindful of something they could never possibly know? I don't look at a crowd and automatically know who's had brain surgery.

zeffra13 31

I'm assuming he meant mindful of where your costume prop is swinging.