By thxmom - 04/01/2015 17:25 - United States - West Jordan

Today, I learned that my mother has been telling people that I need anger management. I'm not attending anger management, I'm attending therapy to aid in my recovery from abusive relationships. She doesn't understand the difference or why I find it upsetting. FML
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RobinGoodfellow 47

Sorry, OP, that's really hurtful. Sit her down and talk to her about her ignorance.

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foxwasalamb 24

the abusive ones. reading is hard buddy. i get that

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an3ph 20

You sound angry. Have you considered anger management?

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diva239 8

I'm so sorry to hear that. ThAt is truly heartbreaking. I'd suggest your mother speak to a therapist to learn the difference and about your experiences?

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ICouldntThinkOfaUsername 10

I know what's it's like to be in a abusive relationship. While mine wasn't physical, there was verbal abuse controlling and he threatened to hit me and my dog. I have my own issues from this. I wish you all the best OP. Your mum needs to understand what you're going through. Good luck with your recovery.

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gerardwhy 21

I'm not trying to defend her because she is clearly in the wrong, but does she maybe think that you're the abuser?

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Nysha 17

Even if OP is the abuser, anger management doesn't make sense - you ever see an abuser who couldn't cool right off when it suited them, like when the police showed up? Abuser programmes are an entirely different kind of therapy.

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mistress_paz 30

Yes, my ex-husband learned how to be more manipulative and started accusing me of being "abusive" for not doing the dishes, etc. I don't know if there is an effective treatment for abusive people.

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Goblin182 26

Let me guess who the abusive person was. Mom?

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Wolfparable 22

That's rather cruel of her but it's good you are getting help very few do, don't give up on it.

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Badabam_fml 14

Man that sucks OP. Your mum shouldn't be telling anyone that you're in therapy unless you've given her permission. Regardless of the type of therapy. Also, maybe she things anger management is for people who have been around people with anger issues? I mean, I'm guessing you explained to her what anger management is though, but just a theory.

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TeacherTeacher 11

It sounds like your mother is your original abuser. You might want to talk to your therapist about how best to set boundaries with her. Congratulations on getting help.

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Spadoinkle 10

Sorry, OP. You have obviously been through some hard times, but at least you are now seeking help. Many people don't, so I applaud you for it. Your mother's ignorance is inexcusable. She needs to understand what you've been through, first of all. She also needs to stop blabbing to other people. It's really no one else's business what you are doing, unless you are okay with it. I don't understand how she can get anger management and therapy mixed up. Either she's not the brightest person, or she is trivializing your problems and making it worse for you on purpose.

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