By nocongratsneeded - 04/11/2015 03:23 - United States - Bloomfield Hills
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Hi all, this is the OP. Obviously, he's my ex, even though he doesn't seem to realize it yet to judge by the texts and phone calls. To give a little more background, we'd been together for almost three years. We were talking about moving in together (but not getting married, I've seen too many of my friends get divorced already). To really prove that the universe hates me, he and I were still using condoms, because I am that freaked out about pregnancy and I can't take hormonal BC. This is the first time ever I've had one break. I'm sure I'm going to catch a lot of flak for this, but I have scheduled an abortion for the end of this week. It's not a human or a potential one to me, it's just a burden and reminder that former relationship was based on a big fat lie. Plus, being pregnant makes me even more anxious than the thought of being pregnant ever did, and I was full-on tokophobic before. Every time I think about having my body being overtaken by some disgusting little alien creature, my heart starts pounding and I get dizzy. I don't know how many times I've thrown up on cue just thinking about it, and it's not from morning sickness. I also really, really, really dislike babies, contrary to my ex's assumptions. I had one shoved at me when I was a teenager, and I nearly dropped it because everything about it terrified me. I don't think it's a good idea to just hope that those maternal hormones kick in and make me suddenly like kids when I haven't since as long as I can remember. So...no congratulations needed, and no pro-life or pro-adoption rants, either. If you'd find it in your heart to suck it up and make the best of this situation, good for you. The best situation for me is to put everything about this horrible experience behind me as soon as possible.
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hektek
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Just kick this asshole as hard as you can in the balls, ***** like him give men a bad rep.
Oh my god, this is one of the worst I've seen. I'd be devastated if this happened to me, I basically feel the same way. Hope everything works out for you OP!
Its your body and you do as you want. Don't force him to have surgery because YOU are afraid /don't want things. If (and that apparently already happened) you two break up, he may meet another woman who does want kids and then YOU will have ruined HER life that you have no say about at all.
What the **** are you talking about?! She's not forcing him to have surgery. And she's definitely not ruining anyone else's life. You are making up situations that aren't happening.
She said she thought he'd had a vasectomy BEFORE they met. Reading comprehension, man.
153, I think 145 just can't read for shit. They probably saw the vasectomy and pregnancy and just incorrectly filled in the gaps without reading further. Reading is important, people. Don't halfass it, or you'll look like a dumbass.
He claimed he had the claimed he had the vasectomy BEFORE dating her. She did not force him to have it because of her fear. Not only that but for a girl to convince a doctor to tie her tubes is really hard to do. He should not have lied about it in the first place.
what a jerk
cortney12334
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Try the copper iud. It's non hormonal, and actually doesn't stop the eggs from dropping but kills all sperm that tries to enter. If you're one of those "I don't like the thought of something being inserted in my body" then honestly you deserve everything that happens to you because they have something for everyone unless you're being picky.
Some people dispel IUDs, especially if they have never been pregnant. Besides, copper IUDs can have some terrible side effects.
I am really curious of the ages of both the OP and her "waste of a human being" ex. I might understand believing a guy had a vasectomy in his late 30s or 40s, but if he is in his 20s, then that whole thing seems a little naive to believe. Knowing the ages of all involved does put this a little more into context.
Puppies are better than babies...
I understand that you don't want to be a mother, but abortion is cruel. There are many couples out there that can't conceive on their own & would love to adopt a baby. If you don't want to keep your child then do a selfless deed & put he/she up for adoption. Everyone deserves a chance to live. I'm sorry you were deceived op.
And forcing a woman who is already definitely, unquestioningly alive to go through a medical condition with a disturbingly high mortality rate isn't cruel. Right.
That is totally what I would do, don't let people talk you into getting a baby you don't want, also there's absolutely no logical reason to be against abortion, it's just a few cells so far, so keep it real OP!
How about you get some permanent solution to avoid pregnancies?
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Honestly whatever you did as a response, he deserved it. Relationships should be built on trust not lies. FYL
Good for you, OP! Not every woman has that maternal instinct, and if you didn't have the drive to have kids before you got pregnant, chances are slim it will kick in after. You have done the responsible thing by not bringing a life into the world that you do not want. Two things I would like to mention: copper IUD may be a good option for you. It lasts 10 years and is non-hormonal. I've had mine for three years and it really is no-maintenance birth control that actually works. Second, no matter how sure you are that abortion is right, it can bring up some psychological distress after. If you find yourself getting depressed, please know this is normal. It may be beneficial to seek short-term counseling afterwards. Hell, just what your boyfriend put you through could warrant a few sessions. Its incredibly helpful. Good luck in all you do! <3