they should make a movie about that... wait they did... clerks

I'm sorry you had your heart broken like that. 4 years isn't easy to let go of. But if she can commit to somebody else so quickly after all your history, she truly isn't worth it. I'm sure you're a great catch, OP. Keep your chin up, and the right girl will be along when the time is right. :)

"Burn me once, shame on you. Burn me twice, shame on me." You knew what you were getting into. Move on. She will never truly return your feelings, in the way that you're hoping for. You're only hurting yourself by not facing the truth - The truth that you're just her go-to guy when there isn't something better on the market.

Sorry but things never work if you continuously break up and get back together again

reminds me of something from how i met your mother

I can't help but wonder if this is what actually happened, or if maybe the ex-gf isn't paying with OP's emotions so much as OP misinterpreting things. People who really want a relationship often have a way of hearing a conversation so that it's more in favor of what they want, and less what the other person actually said. For instance, a friend (A) of mind recently hooked up with another mutual friend (B). They talked about it after, and later both separately told me what they agreed on. A, who wanted a relationship to come out of this, said they had decided that "We'll keep doing what we're doing and see were it leads." Meanwhile, what B had actually told her was "I'm not looking for a relationship, but I'm good with just hooking up." One response leave the possibility of a relationship, the other had no room for one. Make me wonder if OP did something similar. Maybe the girl said something like "Sorry, I can't date you, I really love the guy I'm with." and OP interpreted it as "Sorry, I can't date you *right now,* I kinda like the guy I'm with" with a subtext he thought was mutual of "But I break up with him, the two of us can try again." Likewise, I'm wary of ambiguous terms like "a few" when the unit should be perfectly countable. The same friend as earlier said she had texted one guy (a different mutual friend) "a bunch" over a break, when really she had sent him 3 (unanswered) texts, and he had texted our entire group once to wish us a happy holiday. So I'm wondering what "a few" means. Where they broken up for 3 months? Or was it closer to 11? Had the two actually been re-dating prior to that, or did she think it was just a convenient hook up while you both explored other options. Sorry for the negative tirade, but I've dealt recently with too many people who repeatedly interpret things very incorrectly in the hopes of a relationship, and then demonize the other person for "misleading" them.

She has serious commitment issues. Don't get into that again unless you want to end up being that fiancé later down the road.

Sorry OP, accidentally clicked YDI. Def time to move on though mate. It's gonna be hard & will really suck, but u can to it

Sorry that happened OP. Break up with her and never come back. She shouldn't be leading you on like this.

Wow it's never to smart to spend a large ammout of time with an ex. Then agine im going out for ice cream with my ex wife tonight sooo..... Cant judge