By Feronia - 18/03/2015 13:16 - Netherlands - Goes
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I'm the OP. He is most definitely not suffering from any disease that could impair his memory, and even if he did, his girlfriend could have reminded him. He is suffering from being an immense asshole. He never was much of a father to me, but he bawled like a baby when he got the news about my pregnancy, visited me in the hospital where I was waiting for the last 1.5 months before going into labor and I expected him to become a bit more involved. To the people saying maybe the family is too big: I am his only daughter, this is his first grandchild. He has no nieces, no nephews and no young cousins. So it's impossible to drown in babynews in my family.
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Still waiting for my mum to come and see my nearly 7yr old daughter
why's he just now meeting her??
probably live far apart from each other, can't afford to travel. Just a possibility.
My dad hadn't seen my youngest son, and he was about to cancel a trip to see him for the first time (he was 2), and the only way to convince him to show up, was to ruin the surprise of his 1 month old granddaughter. I feel your pain.
My mother lives on the next block and doesn't visit my 2 year old son. Some parents are just selfish. Sorry OP, it really sucks.
In my family the kids make the effort to see the parents not the other way around. Easier for each kid to visit than for them to visit each kid. Maybe you should go visit him instead
When you've just had a baby, relatives usually come to you.
Doesn't work for our family when we have multiple babies. Everyone I know visits their parents. Babies don't really stop you getting in a car and going for a drive. I mean unless they live really far away from each other. I don't know that's just how we've always done it
I find the opposite is true. It's easier for the grandparents to go see the kids & grandkids, then the kids packing the babies into the car along with the huge amount of stuff that comes with a baby! Especially if there are multiple babies. When a mom goes to the grocery store with a baby she needs to pack the baby in and out of the car as well as a huge diaper bag, imagine how much more stuff there would be if it was a a road trip a few hours away. The playpen and stroller alone fill most of the car.
That would have been an idea, if it weren't for the fact that I haven't got a car, and most certainly do not have the money to hop on a train to go over to his new place. He does have a car, and seeing as he works 40+ hours a week with a pretty good pay, he had nothing stopping him from coming.
Not everyone is your like your family. Everyone does things different. You don't have to be so rude about it.
The child is only 4 months old, not like he was a teen yet. plus the grandpa is old and like many old people they forget.
My grandad doesn't even know my middle names. One of them is his name. Heck my cousins once convinced him that he had a middle name and that he'd forgotten it. It's not alzheimer's, he's just a bit thick. He spent his entire life calling his mother the wrong name and only realised at her funeral.
I feel your pain OP, my father won't acknowledge his 10 month old grandson because he's a quarter black. It's heartbreaking that he wants nothing to do with his grandson,because he's mixed. My grandpa,who used to be a member of the KKK back in the day, excepts my fiancee and our child, so I don't get my dad. The way I've learned to look at it, his loss. My father and your father both, are missing out on wonderful children.
At least OP's dad isn't in jail? That happened to my friend. She never had a good relationship with her father, but when her son was born, she called him a few times to try to set up a meeting. Then she gets the call for her mom when the baby was almost 3 months old that grandpop was in jail.
Or he forgot about the meet?
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Seriously? You would think he would have been there since the babies birth.
Alzheimer's?