By Feronia - 18/03/2015 13:16 - Netherlands - Goes
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I'm the OP. He is most definitely not suffering from any disease that could impair his memory, and even if he did, his girlfriend could have reminded him. He is suffering from being an immense asshole. He never was much of a father to me, but he bawled like a baby when he got the news about my pregnancy, visited me in the hospital where I was waiting for the last 1.5 months before going into labor and I expected him to become a bit more involved. To the people saying maybe the family is too big: I am his only daughter, this is his first grandchild. He has no nieces, no nephews and no young cousins. So it's impossible to drown in babynews in my family.
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Umm, not to make any assumptions, but maybe he's beginning to show the early stages of Alzheimer's disease if he forgot his granddaughter who was born recently.
23, i agree. I was thinking it's more likely that the father forgot that he was supposed to come over to see the child, than that he completely forgot the child even exists.
Maybe he forgot he had a daughter, too. Damn memor... wait, what was I talking about?!
23, I mean I don't know for sure, but I just want to point out that the says that he forgot he had a grandchild. Maybe during the conversation, he said that. No way to know for sure, but you may be right.
At least he didn't say anything worse like "people forget things all the time, like birth control!"
A friend of mine from hs's father pulled that card when she asked him something similar actually!
"I forgot [to be a good grandpa]"
More like forgot to be a good father.
#20, I think you need to re-read the FML...
Forgetting his daughter had a kid makes him a pretty terrible dad actually..
Visiting is not going to mean much to a 4 month old baby but it's going to mean a heck of a lot to his daughter. So a bad grandpa yes, but a worse father.
That is a dick move, but for all you know he's had other stuff going on that's keeping him busy.
Alzheimer's?
That's the first thing that came on my mind
That's a little extreme for early stages of alzheimers. If it's to the point where he doesn't remember a major life event like a grandchild's birth, I think OP would already know he had it and wouldn't have posted this.
Pretty sure this wouldn't be an FML if the grandfather had a good reason for forgetting
if your father is like that, don't expect much from him
Old men forget but forgetting about a grandson that is 4 months old is a little too much.
Maybe its cause of age?
Maybe they aren't as close as people are assuming, either emotionally or geographically It still hurts but more details are needed to make an informed comment
At least he still remembers you :p
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Seriously? You would think he would have been there since the babies birth.
Alzheimer's?