I suggest just flat out ignore her. You don't need your child growing up around people like that. She will realize sooner or later that you control when she sees her grandchild and she'll regret being so nasty to you. Congrats on the baby though!

And this is why I would rather hook up with an orphan.

If you are nursing you can explain to her that losing weight while nursing releases the toxins stored in the fat cells into the blood stream and thus into the milk, and you'd rather not poison her grandchild, thankyouverymuch. Of course, once you start shedding the pregnancy weight that could come back to haunt you, but that is early enough to specify that this is especially true for fat that was there longer than the pregnancy, and that unless you lose the weight really fast the amounts are negligable.

She's not yet your mother-in-law, just the mother of your baby's father. Don't stoop down to her level for a mere battle. Save your dignity, ignore her and prove your value by allowing your boyfriend to stand up for you. That will hit her more than any comeback you could give because that's her baby boy choosing to defend and honor you more than put up with her disrespect to his future wife. Antagonizing her will only come back to sting you later on when other family conflicts present themselves. So be patient and just focus on your family: your boyfriend, your baby and yourself. Kill her with kindness. Since the opportunity for any decent comeback has long since left, just leave that incident in the past and move forward.

Good thing others were there to see how rude she can be and to put her in her place (even if it's showing her out the door). A woman who has just given birth does NOT need to take such a nasty remark. I'm glad you have your boyfriend and family to support you and your baby.

She doesn't need to be a bad influence around your children. She really needs to learn to get all the details before she speaks. That's very offensive for anybody to say.

92 - What if that was her mother in law and the MIL was just upset the OP had the audacity to bring her piece on the side to a family gathering? :-O

Wait, why did I get buried here?

Don't worry about a comeback. Just tell her that her behavior and remarks were completely unacceptable. You do not accept that sort of behavior in those around you, and you certainly will not expose your child to that sort of animosity and sheer bad manners. And that you will not hesitate to remove her from your presence or vice-versa if she continues with that behavior. And follow through on it. No need for a comeback. Just point out that she was at fault, that it is absolutely unacceptable, and that you, as an adult, do not choose to associate with people with that poor a level of conduct. She's had way more practice at being a bitch that you have. And you can point that out to her in an "I'm an adult delivering a lesson" manner, which may be precisely what she needs. And seriously. If she does it again, have her removed. Make certain you've gone over this with the dad beforehand, and that he's with you. If you tell her to leave and she won't? That's what the police are for. :)

103- first of all, just accept it. Second, I was skeptical of the toxins part, however correct me if I'm wrong.

Tell her you bet she was twice the weight.

#107, I've been buried before and I usually don't care if I attempted humor and people just don't think it's funny, but here I was just stating a fact. Because the weight loss releasing toxins thing is totally true! My SIL is a La Leche League and IBCLC nursing consultant and she told me - look it up, you will find it on the internet too! True, for the toxins to be really harmful you would need to lose the weight really fast (around 2.5kg or 5 ponds a week), but even if you go half that rate, toxins are released, just less. Also, it probably depends where you live. If I recall that correctly, the chemicals used in agricultre are the ones mostly stored in the fat cells

Hey congrats on the new baby OP. Don't worry about your monster in law

Omg same

I am breastfeeding. I plan on losing weight at a decent pace. I want to heal before I start intense exercise and I also don't want to reduce my milk supply by limiting my diet.

I agree, be the bigger person and treat people with kindness. Good advice :)

Tell the bitch, "Hey! I just had a baby less than two days ago. Whats your excuse? I can lose the weight, but you are just a bitch. There is no changing that."

OP, that sounds like a very decent plan! I see you have everything figured out!

I had a friend that got angry at her brother so what she did was cut open his pillow, stick cat crap in there and sew it back up. He never found out. Seems like good revenge to me.

Possible snappy comeback: "Yes, I'm fat, but I can lose post-baby weight. You're stuck with that ugly personality for life."

You definitely have a keeper with the guy... A lot of guys won't stand up to their mother, and the fact that he escorted her from the room after she said that says a lot for him... Such as he's putting your feelings as a top priority, even over "mommy". Or his own, as it was probably difficult for him to do that... Unless she's always like that, even to him, and he can't stand her anyways. But still. It's a very good sign.

If you still use the word "hook up" while referring to giving birth to the child of someone you are in a relationship with, I hope you stay single. Also, no one chooses to be an orphan. Asshole

122, I'm pretty sure she meant hook up as it's definition. sex with a random person practically, a one night stand. though, most people like to use a condom. I guess she prefers the possibility of bringing a child into the world.

Congratulations on your new arrival OP! Sadly some people don't realise what they are saying can hurt ... I hope she has apologised / apologises!

My mother in law has always hated me but is being nice now that I am pregnant. I think she figured out that if she was horrible to me we wouldn't let her see the baby and she doesn't want to be cut out of his life. Some people are just mean.

Are you married? If not, she's not your Mother -In-Law.

My grandmother always asks me if I have gained weight. So frustrating when eating right is hard (to break the bad habits of sugar and caffeine)