By Miss_Whipped - 02/06/2014 17:01 - United States - Arlington

Today, I walked a student to an office on the other side of the school. I'm the kind of person who would rather make conversation than endure awkward silence, so I tried to talk to him. He just stared intently at my chest the whole time. FML
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Miss_Whipped 43

You're right, it was awkward with his head turned toward me the whole time. Working in the main office doesn't leave me a lot of room as to what I can say or do in front of the people I escort across the building (most of them sponsors from colleges or other organizations to pass out information during lunch). I think the worst I had to endure was this one pair of guys who did nothing but bad-mouth the school and the others that worked in my office. My only response was to take them down the longest, winding path to their destination as I could imagine. Other than that, I had to remain silent when I wanted to defend my school's honor. As far as this kid, I ended up clamming up and stopped making any attempt to talk to him. I usually call people out on weird behavior, but I think that it was just the shock and disgust of it all that glued my mouth shut. I just walked back to the office silently and did nothing. What was I supposed to do, cry 'sexual harassment' this late in the school year? I've got 4 days left before I never have to attend high school again. I'd rather it go off without a hitch. As for the 'I've got a nice rack' comments, I don't think it's appropriate to stare either way. Some things are meant to keep to yourself (or your own eyeballs).

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Top comments

bromeister 6

The strangeness of this FML depends greatly on OP's gender..

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mybubbles2000 13

If he could have only said what he was thinking at that moment.

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Comments

GothicKnife 11

I think it would be best not to start a conversation next time.

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kizzjizz 7

Well at least you have nice boobs? Congrats.

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dj1408 1

well hes a teen so he probaly likes **** like most other guys

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limabeans101029 20

Still no excuse to intently stare at a stranger's chest.

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kkmichelle2283 1

I understand how you feel I've been a DD since I was 10 and people stare at my boobs and try to take advantage of me all the time

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mkayden 23

'I can see the galaxy in your nipples...' *drools*

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John_in_Oz 11

You're complaining about a guy looking at you. On the other hand, two weeks ago a fifty year old woman was complaining to me that when you reach her age men DONT look. "We're invisible." She's not the only one. "It's cruel the way men ignore women my age" said another. Consider it from this guy's point of view. It's perfectly possible that you are the first good looking woman who has ever spoken to him in his life. His hormones have shoved sand in the gearbox of his tongue and brain, despite how desperately he would love to put two words together for you. High functioning autism, social awkwardness, being raised neurotic in a religious family, shyness and other factors or some combination thereof can all contribute to that trip having been far more awkward for him than for you. I know a guy who was 34 before he learned to put two words together when talking to a woman. You're complaining about the attention of a male. For the past two hundred million generations, every male who failed to attract a woman's attention died without leaving any of their genes behind. Consequently every male's hormones are constantly shrieking at them that it's life or death to get your attention. Sadly for them, many don't know how, and are paralysed by fear and indecision. In the situation you described he said nothing inappropriate, he did not touch you inappropriately, your complaint is that he was looking at you, while you were dressed in the clothes you wear to go out in public and be seen by everybody. I'm not presuming to guess about you, but I do know that in the hypothetical situation that the guy was good looking, suave, funny and sexually attractive, many women of my acquaintance would be thanking 'the girls' for drawing exactly that degree of attention. The two rules for a perfect society are '1) Don't annoy other people', and '2) Don't be two easily annoyed.' Is it possible you're being too easily annoyed?

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liffagain 16

Not every girl wants the same amount of attention. And you must understand that not every move of an interested person towards the other is sending the right message. If a guy is obviously nervous, stutters, turns red, blurts out nonsense, no normal and mature girl will make fun or think he is weird. It shows that he is trying. But staring very obviously at someone's breasts, but, face... It's creepy dude. I get why he would want to stare, hormones and all that. But that doesn't entitle him to stare, especially if the girl is uncomfortable.

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bananashaker 14

There's a difference between looking at someone's chest briefly, and staring at someone's chest for a long time and not making any eye contact at all. That wasn't complimenting her, it was just very rude.

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Miss_Whipped 43

This is to #72: In this situation, or any like it, I don't find it reasonable to just 'take it as a compliment' and move on. That pushes the culture of objectifying women in the workplace and puts us in a position where if we say anything about it, it is dismissed. He isn't my boyfriend, who is the only person allowed to stare at my chest at nearly any given point (excluding, of course, places where you exhibit formal or professional etiquette). The only difference between this and ANY other time this has happened - no, this isn't new to me - is that I didn't know the person, and this alone made it difficult to get my words out. I am not a shy person by any means. I just can't imagine wanting to put myself in a situation that made the current even more uncomfortable than it already was. I agree with #73 saying that it was rude, (regardless of whether or not the student knew this fact). Thank you guys for the polite exchange of opinions and ideas. It's a nice change from the norm on here.

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Plexia 9

I wish I could sit you down and explain why everything you said in this comments is wrong, but I just... I don't have the time.

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kirasant 19

To look is natural, to stare is unexcusable. That's the difference. This dude was staring at her chest the entire walk. That's not a compliment, that's completely ignoring her as a person. And I think it's a bit much to assume that someone that does this is on the autistic spectrum.

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AJlatour 9

women and men all stare and drool over each other it is part of life and yes sometimes it can be weird.

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WeskersSexslave 15

He probably had aspergers. A friend of mine has it amd says he subconciously does it to anyone girl or guy because he lacks eye contact.

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AJlatour 9

most over weight people men or women have large breast and he is a horny teen.

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Miss_Whipped 43

I don't see how weight is relevant in this situation (being that skinny girls can have boobs too), but with his weight, he could have stared at his own breasts. It didn't have to be mine.

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