By StillTooYoung - 20/01/2013 13:13 - United States - Louisville

Today, I was discussing with my husband how it was time I stopped taking birth control so we could have a baby. He looked at me and said sincerely, "We're a little young to be having kids, don't you think?". He's 35 and I'm 32. FML
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imagineapc 11

Sounds like your husband doesn't wants kids. Don't pull the goalie on him, he'll resent you.

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shellzy 20

Well considering she and her husband are already over 30, I'd say that's a moot point. And I thought it was over forty.

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Dilwann 27

Starts at 30-35. At 45 there's a 1 in 30 chance for a child with Down Syndrome.

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angiodave 6

A"disease" called Down's syndrome?? It's NOT a diseas, but a genetic predisposition! You can "cure" a disease, but you? I'm afraid not! So insensitive!

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PlaySpades 21

84- I understand the sentiment but just to clarify, Down's syndrome is a genetic disorder, not a genetic predisposition. You either have it or you don't, and predisposition means there's only a chance you'll develop it later on.

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dontpanic_fml 32

I'm gonna say you deserve it as you probably never discussed the issue of children with him and you sincerely think that his reasoning is actually that you're too young. Also, you're now in a no-win situation. Good luck!

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williamcarter93 13

Don't do anything devious like pop his condoms on the sly or pretend that you still are on BC when you aren't...he will end up hating you if you trick a baby on him.

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doritowhore 9

Perhaps it would have been a better idea to discuss this a lot earlier in the marriage? I mean suddenly thinking "LET'S HAVE KIDS" after all that time makes me think that it probably hasn't been thought through well enough in the first place.

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baileygirl88 8

I totally agree! I plan to be in my 30s as well...I'm 25 now and am so not ready and won't be for at LEAST 5 years!

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sonnyrosa 32

I think I might be dyslexic. I totally read "Today, I was dissecting my husband..."

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chell1894 13

There isn't really a "proper age" to have a baby. If you are financially stable with a significant other that agrees on a baby then that's the proper time. I know plenty of 20something parents with babies. They are married and can afford a baby and wanted to be young parents. There's nothing wrong with that ...

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skyeyez9 24

Refusing to have kids is a valid reason to divorce. If you truly want kids and he keeps putting it off because he doesn't have the balls to admit he doesn't want them. Leave and marry a guy who does want kids. I have a friend who is very bitter because he wants kids badly and his wife (who initially wanted them) changed her mind and refuses now. Because she said she likes her childless lifestyle and kids will "ruin it."

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doritowhore 9

I can see your point with the whole "losing out on kids because your spouse disagrees" thing, but it would be just as much of a loss to divorce the one you love dearly. Even more of a loss, because the "kids" are an idea and do not even exist at that point.

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Abantiquo 7

To a point yes, but some people have kids at the center of what their life will be one day. Hard to give up that understanding of your future.

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skyeyez9 24

My husband's dad was in the same situation. He was married to a woman who initially said she wanted kids then changed her mind. He stayed with her for 20yrs before making the decision to divorce because he wanted kids (he was 40yrs old and time for fathering kids running out) He married my mother in law and they had 3 boys together. They were married 22yrs before he passed away from cancer.

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saksxalmo 20

#37, you kind of make it sound like you marry people for the future children, rather than for the person him/herself... I thought you were supposed be be accepting of your partner and love them in good and bad and shit. Anyway, why is everyone so obsessed with kids? I never understood it. The world doesn't need more kids.

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HelloSirs 14

The longer you wait to have a baby, the higher the chance of defects. And personally, when my kid turns 20, I don't want to be 60, I would rather be 40-50 so I can spend more time with them.

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