By Sady_Ct - 16/06/2016 11:01 - Australia - Geelong
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Hey guys, OP here... Wow! My first FML posted. To explain the situation, I was talking with my mum about how I'm unable to have kids due to physical issues with my body, my spine etc, all of which contribute to my financial and mental/emotional state. When some psycho storms up to me in the food court and screamed at me. What I actually do is help build the education funds for my nieces for when they grow up. Thanks for the support for everyone who understands... I get it on a weekly basis from everyone, including my partners family, and really gets under the skin. My father told me on his birthday at the start of the month that if I'm not pregnant by the end of the year he doesn't want to see me any more.. It's hard and it hurts, but i would never put a child of mine through what I went through. Thanks again for all your support! ^_^
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I'm with you OP. I don't want kids either. They're annoying, needy, dirty, loud, messy, and a HUGE financial burden. Yeah no thank you i'm fine. They need constant attention it's like no daddy wants to be left alone go away, I'd be an uncle though since I have 2 brothers. Then I can see the kids occasionally but if one needs to be changed nope i'll go tell your mom or dad that's not on me. Or if I get annoyed I can just... leave. Like you can't do that as a parent. You can't just leave when you get annoyed with your needy kids. You're stuck with them.
b3autyiisb0nes
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I feel the same way, though situations are slightly different. my favorite is after they call me selfish, they then try to convince me I will one day change my mind. you're not selfish. people suck.
It's OK, I don't want kids either and I get crap for it. Just don't let them change your mimd though, especially since you know you shouldn't. Those sorr of people should mimd their own buisness ans realise that other people anern't them and may not have the same ideals.
what are you, a potato?
Sady_Ct
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#103, no I'm not. I have a few issues with spine, pelvic, and joint coalitions... Ie, my bones are fused. The constant pain is horrible, I can't take pain killers because of chemical allergies. Thus the pain gets emotionally and mentally draining as well as a physical burden on bad days. I also work in aged care as a DVA home and community carer. I love my life the way it is, I couldn't cope with kids even if I wanted kids, which I don't. And I am not a maternal person either. I don't want kids, I couldn't look after them and I don't want to. I have my nieces over (18month, 5 years and 12) once every two months for a sleep over, I love them and I am happy to send them home. Bottom line, no kids for me, and that's the end of that.
DragonRain3390
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OP, why do you put up with that? There are people out there that wouldn't blame you for something that you can't help. You having physical problems preventing you from caring for children, when you obviously want them, isn't your fault. That's unnecessary stress for you.
Sady_Ct
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Regardless of the fact I have issues that would prevent me from caring for children... I don't want children... And that's half the issue... People always put it down to 'I know you want to but you can't' or 'you are selfish for not having kids because so many other people want them too' I do not, under any circumstances, for any reason want kids.
I absolutely do not understand how it is selfish not to want to have children - unless partners want them in which case it needs to be talked about but is not necessarily selfish.
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I'm not having kids either for genetic/financial reasons and because I don't want children anyway. I figure if I ever DO want children and have the means, then I can adopt rather then inflict some innocent kid with my bad genetics.
Good for you. Too many people have kids when they are not ready or just not fit to be a parent. Thank you for being thoughtful of another's life!
Speak your mind, but please try and be respectful.
my dad is always asking me if I'm done. I announced I'm having twins and he's like you aren't done yet. thanks dad ?
To me you sound like everything the opposite of what you're being. Called glad to hear that there are still awesome people like you OP.
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Yes, because refusing to put kids in a position that is detrimental to their mental, emotional, and physical health is such a selfish thing. Or refusing to add more kids to the already overpopulated planetary population. You aren't selfish, and they're idiots.
It's no one's business if you don't want to have children, and your father is a callous idiot for giving you that ultimatum. Besides, you're doing a noble act by placing funds for your nieces' futures. Keep doing what you're doing, OP. Don't let people try to shame you into something you'll regret.