Sooooo your boyfriend?

Technically, it's called Electra complex in females.

E·lec·tra com·plex nounPSYCHOANALYSIS old-fashioned term for the Oedipus complex as manifested in young girls.

For all I know, Freud's Oedipus complex is the fundamental theory that describes the incestual-like attraction of a boy to his mother, and the resulting rivalry between the boy and his father, based on Oedipus myth. Also, Freud considered since his early work on the concept that there is a feminine Oedipus complex, parallel to the masculine one. However, the definition of the feminine Oedipus complex later evolved, and lost symmetry with the masculine one due to the different reaction of boys and girls to the castration anxiety. Girls, realising they have no phallus to conquer the mother, blame the mother for this, then turn to the father in hope for his phallus and love, therefore start acting like the mother to take her place by the father's side. Boys simply love their mother and fear their father will punish them for this, by castrating them. Finally, the Oedipus complex's principle is the desire for the opposite gender parent in both boys and girls case, simply the feminine version is a bit more tricky. Moreover, Freud's Oedipus complex is nowadays often considered as the primordial theory that describes the incest taboo, involving both genders. As for Jung's Electra complex, it is initially a new terminology to designate Freud's feminine Oedipus complex, as the Electra myth is more suitable for the daughter-father situation. This terminology has been rejected by Freud who considered that it was too ambiguous, because it could imply that masculine and feminine Oedipus complex follow the exact same process, perfectly mirrored, with no supplementary twisted stages in the feminine development. Electra complex is however used in neo-freudian theory where it designates the whole daughter-loves-the-father-and-hates-the-mother thing. Alors, the neo-freudian theory diverge from the original freudian one concerning the feminine Oedipus/Electra complex process. So it is true that Electra complex is specific to this anecdote. Nevertheless, Oedipus complex is still correct as it refers to both feminine and masculine issues with the opposite gender parental figure in Freud's work. N.b., I am not a native speaker, so please forgive me for the possible mistakes.

Lol that's not what an Oedipus complex is. You're a girl, and dating a guy, an Oedipus complex is only for your mom. With that said, age is just a number, as long as you guys truly love each other, truly respect each other and are waiting until marriage, things are good!

OP, I am in the same boat. My boyfriend and I are 19 years apart! I get comments about it all the time. Don't let it bother you, love is love. ?

the kids really don't have filters don't worry about it i had a roommate like that she just liked older guys

This literally could have happened to me lol. My husband is 18yr older than me, and my step kids are 22 and 19. I'm 23.

This is really more of a cute/funny FML than a terrible one :) Kids will quite innocently question anything they haven't come across with. My bf is only 8 years older than me, and of a different race, but he's still had some kid ask if I was his daughter. Of course you'll have to get used to the stares but as long as no one's a jerk, don't take it to heart: people just get curious/surprised. It's rare to see couples with such big age differences, but knowing several that have been together happily for many years, it's definitely possible! :)

OP back there. I'll answer to some specific comments later, but first some generalities. I've waited a bit before coming back, because I was bored with the Electra-not-Oedipus-you're-a-moron thing. By the way, a special thanks @vampire9545. I've not studied psychology nor psychiatry, but I'm interested in it and hoped to set the terminology right. Also, in my country, or at least in my circle, I commonly hear people talking about Oedipus and quite never about Electra. For people I know, including professionals, it is a way of designating both complex under a common term, not a mistake. Besides, psychoanalysis, for what it's worth… we don't need to fight over that. Thanks everyone for your comments. First FML published, so it has been a great pleasure reading your reactions, specially of those who had experienced similar situations. Even with detachment, it's sometimes surprising to witness people's reactions. When we know a situation from the inside, it can be difficult to imagine the look that others could have on it.