By way2gosam - 26/05/2009 04:52 - United States
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Okay, I'm finally writing back to all 401 of your comments. Yes, I am a pregnant teenager- although, I can not see how that has any revelance to my post, pregnancy in teenagers happens quite often and I do not appreciate the judgemental/negative comments being thrown at me. It's pure slander. Yes, the father and I did have a fallout and I will be raising the baby on my own, with the help and support of my family and friends- not to mention he lives in the northern part of the state that I live in, which happens to be 4-5 hours away, even if he wanted to be here for the arrival of our child(which we are expecting to be a girl), he could not make it here on time. Therefore, my mother is my "go'to man", for lack of better words. I also notice you all are saying that he wouldn't want to hold my hand or watch the baby being born, I never said he would be in the delievery room- I simply asked him to keep my company during the scary hours of contractions that were yet to come, until my mother could arrive and take over. Yes, we had previously discussed it, and he had said that if need-be, he would be there. Unfortunately for me, he was speaking pure lies. As for the premature labor I did go into, they did stop it, and I am now on bed rest while taking a medicine called "terbutaline" every 4 hours in order to hold her until full term. (Which is also why I could write my FML, I didn't come home taking care of a baby, I came home on bed rest so I could have my baby at the correct time. I had nothing else to do but write my FML.) I do understand how confusing and misleading my post was, but keep in mind you only get a certain amount of letters to work with when writing your original FML, and by reading this I'm sure you've noticed that I could not elaborate thouroughly with 300 letters as a maximum. I do appreciate your opinions, even though I do not agree with all the statements that were made. Just wanted to explain since there were so many confused people.
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deliapearl
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1-There is nothing wrong with having your mother present for delivery. Especially with premature labor and the high possibility of something going wrong. My friend, a 30+ year old married physician lost a child at 5 months and both of her parents were there as soon as they heard something was wrong. 2-I don't know who the father of the child is or the circumstances of your becoming pregnant. I doubt the friend is the father or you would have stated that. I don't know what happened with the father (dead, rape, military, poor choice, etc), but since you have a crush on the friend, I guess he is not in the picture. I can tell you that know is not the time for romance. You do have the right to be in a loving relationship, but these are critical times for the baby right now. Newborns make it tough even for married people, and it is not fair to settle him down to diaper duty when he is clearly not ready for it. 3-I am not judging, just offering friendly advice. Motherhood involves sacrifice. Even married moms must sacrifice. It will be easier when the child is a little older. But for now, you cannot eat, sleep, use the bathroom, go out, date, etc until the child's needs, wants, etc are taken care of first. With patience and time you will finally get everything you deserve. Best of luck and I know you will make a good Mom!
bonafidehustler
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#4 and #6 nailed it. The best friend/crush doesn't want to be stuck becoming the father of your kid.
hmmmm...you're in premature labor and he's your 'crush' something doesn't smell right.. fake....
Abortion's been legal for like 30 years now. Just saying.
Oh come on, I wouldn't even go to my own labour if I could get out of it. Childbirth has to be one of the most awkward things I can think of. I would way eat cornflakes and watch TV instead. Even if he was just waiting for your Mum to arrive, it would be so awkward for both of you. If he's not the father then your friendship will be better off this way. Besides, "I can't because I'm eating cornflakes and watching TV" is probably more tactful than "I'm not coming because childbirth is terrifying."
sheheartsthings
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Uhhhm how did you even know he was eating cornflakes and watching TV? Either this is fake or he told you that and isn't much of a best friend OR a "crush."
#9 FTW
#112 /signed a thousand times!
fretforyerlatte
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amen, 124. well put.
haulkeel
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In his defense, what show was it?
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he probably knows you are into him so is avoiding being to close to you incase he gets the position of father figure to your child and is therefore stuck with you and the kid forever, he saved himself from having a fml
Is he the father? If he is, he should be more than a "crush". Sounds like a bad choice to me either way.