jeeze u have a crush on a guy while you're preggers with someone elses baby, u can't even be old... my god, YDI

#81 You disgust me. Just because it is not happening to the mans body doesn't mean he has any less responsibility for it, at all. Even if it was one night, with no emotional connection whatsoever, he has an equal responsibility to be there for both the mother and the child, not only financially but emotionally and physically from that point forward. The possibility of pregnancy is not the woman's responsibility any more than the mans, an claiming that women should sleep around less because of it just makes you look like the sexist tool you are proving to be. And the OP could very well be giving the child up for adoption. The father wouldn't need to be in tv room or in her life if that were the case.

Where's the father!?

I agree 100% with 101. Also, not all contraceptives work. They all have failure rates, perhaps she was one of the unfortunate whose birth control, condom, spermicide failed. Regardless she decided to keep the baby, and that`s a plus for me. If you are mature enough to have sex, then you should be able to handle the concequences. Good luck with the baby.

All in all...congratulations! Go spend time with your new baby.

Where's the father?

Wow, people. When I was in labor it wasn't THAT painful at first so yes, I made about 30 phone calls/texts before I had the baby. And when I was in the delivery room everyone had a cell phone on just in case, and the nurses couldn't have cared less. It wasn't preemie labor but it was still labor. And if my mom were still alive, DAMN RIGHT I would have called her to be by my side when I gave birth to my son! And guess what? My best friend actually HELPED deliver the baby. My really close friends (one of whom is a MALE) were there up until the nasty part. In fact, my best male friend was at the hospital before I even got there because I called him when my water broke at my house and he RUSHED to the hospital. He was there for 16 hours with me, never left. So no, it may not be the RESPONSIBILITY of the friend to be there but as her "best friend" there's a reason she called him. She may not be trying to replace the baby's father with him but more wanted someone she cared about there. And if she would have phrased it as "the guy I like" everyone would be jumping down her throat the same way they're judging the word "crush." Jeez, people. Fathers walk out all of the time, like my son's father. He decided when I was 6 months pregnant to leave me and to find someone else and knocked her up when I was 8 months pregnant and when my son was 2 months old got married to the homewrecking *****. Father's aren't always there.

Guys see things differently than girls. Where a girl best friend would be right there, a guy thinks of all the grossness that goes into having a baby (you know, all the goo that comes out and all of that) and also he thinks you're putting pressure on him to fill the father's shoes (I'm assuming he isn't the father by the way this was written). He was just looking out for himself.

#150- Thank you. Someone with sense.

#145 I'm sorry if I came across as meaning that men have less responsibility for their actions in sleeping around, that's not what I meant. While men of course also have a responsibility to make sure they wear a condom, the fact still remains that it's the woman who is affected a lot more if he doesn't. The woman can't run away from her responsibility to the child, whereas unfortunately the man can. You can sleep with half the world's population if you want, I'm not judging you on those grounds, but if you're not careful enough and you get pregnant off some randomer whose name you don't remember, you have quite possibly screwed over your own life and the life of your child.