So you had a bad dad as parent. Violence is NEVER a option in parenting. There so much other ways to punish them other than Violence. And you cant demand respect from a child when you start disrespecting it. @op stop telling lies to your kids. You kinda deserve it. Even though your kid was rude to you.

So 137 it is bad to encourage children to believe im magic and wonder for as long as possible? The op wasn't lying she was trying a creative approach to get her daughter to do her homework. It wasn't a good way though. Also spanking children to a degree is quite fine since pain helps humans learn to quit doing things. For example after you burn yourself on the stove you are more careful around it. So a gentle spanking when a child uses foul language will make them less likely to use it. This 'don't hit your kid because its so awful' is why children are becoming so out of control. Disipline is very important. We as a society are becoming to soft on any type of rule breaking and it shows.

There's no need to use a 'creative' approach or use fictional worlds a nine year old is old enough to realise isn't real, just tell them they have to do their homework, no ifs or buts. On smacking, how can you tell your children that hitting people is wrong if you hit them yourselves?

There is a clear difference in punishing your children and beating up some random guy. If they use being spanked as a child as an excuse, it is exactly that. Nothing but an excuse. Society is all about it never being your fault when you do wrong, but it is.

@138 Yes in my optinion i think it is better to not tell kids that Hogwarts, Santa Clause and other thing you clearly dont belive in are real. It is basically lying. She could have said "If you do your homework ill buy you the pony you always wanted" even though she wont do that. Its the same kind od lie for me. Even though my Example is way more severe. As to hitting. Nowhere in western adult society is violence an adequate form of punishment. So why is it ok to teach children that it is? Because thats what you teach Children by hitting them. In my experience children that experienced violence as punishment are more prone to use violence as conflict resolution. #134 is an example for that. because her whole argument is: "dont call me a bad person because daddy told me its ok to hit children" Dicipline is important but you dont need violence to teach or enforce it.

How about I continue to view spanking as a valid punishment and you can view it as bad. Ill go my way and you go yours and don't try to force our views on each other?