By singleagain - 15/05/2012 01:09 - United States

Today, my boyfriend asked me to marry him, saying that the only thing he would change about me is my last name. I later told him that I wanted to keep my last name after the marriage. I'm now single again. FML
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Bob_Cat_fml 14

This is very precisely sexist. The symbolic of giving your last name to your wife has been at first the token that she was changing family. She used to belong to her parents and then to her husband. It was treating women as objects. Last name, as well as surname, is a part of your identity, and she perfectly has the right to want to keep her identity. This absolutely doesn't mean that she doesn't truly love her boyfriend, because you know, love is not about possession and she is supposed to love him, not his name. Of course it is not the kind of sexism that will make him batter his wife, but it is still a beginning of sexism. Anyway he is a prick for leaving her, let alone the sexist thing.

zingline89 18

Well, I guess you'll be Ms. Shitstain for the rest of your life. Would it have been so bad to be Mrs. Jones?

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sweet_candy_ 17

It's really stupid to lose a person you love over a last name.

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Timbo05 4

He's a real dick for that, but unless your family has some super awesome legacy I don't see why a name change is a huge deal.

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sirsquab 12

" I don't see why it's a big deal ." by that logic, you should think the guy is dumb for leaving her

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ferrousWheel 6

The situation is what you make of it. This immature move of his may very well be a favor to you in the long run. Trust me, "I'm now single again" does not have to be a sad ending by any means.

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myangelbaby4 1

y didnt u just change ur name it not that big of deal when me and my bf get married i will take his last name or tried and compromise by putting his las last name after urs

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afropuffjake 9

Sorry but I think you deserved that one. If that's how you feel about the last name situation I do believe one can consider you an assertive personality. You may or may not have considered things your bury sacrificed or changed to accommodate your beliefs, and who knows maybe all he wanted was to call you HIS wife. If you can't give him that and he won't yield then either work something out or find someone who is more willing to put up with that. Who knows how much his friends rag on him as it is for being "whipped"

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un1corns 15

What's wrong with her being assertive? OP's boyfriend would have still been able to call her his wife with or without the name change. If his reasons for breaking up with her are solely to avoid (possibly) being mocked by his friends, then he's not ready for marriage.

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jackol9 4

At least you get to keep your last name.. :)

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juhlman 1

You must not love him that much if you didn't want to change something like your last name it's been tradition for thousands of years

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thatgirlinoregon 21

Conversely, he must not love her that much to not at least consider her viewpoint and respect her desire to keep her maiden name. There are plenty of traditions that have been done away with because they are outdated; while the name change tradition may not be 'outdated' per se, women now have many more rights than when it came about. Just something to consider...

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Shrike 23

******* hell. Who let the illiterate morons out of their cages today?

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deviable 9

I think your cat is walking across your keyboard again.

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Senseless_487 29

53, did you just bang your face on your keyboard a few times?

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ArmyScoutSniper 4

You deserve it, I hope you are miserable and unhappy for the rest of your life. If you cannot commit to having his name. You cannot commit yourself to him and him alone. I hope he finds someone who will respect him more than you will.

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Mauskau 35

Double barrel it unless his surname is really bad

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