By tayymeds - 12/03/2014 07:44 - United States - Mission Viejo

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Today, my boyfriend asked why I never let him go down on me. I told him that it doesn't do much for me, even though it really does. I didn't have the courage to tell him that it's because he acts like a rabid dog when he does. FML
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tayymeds 23

So yes, I agree that I completely deserve it because I won't be blunt with him. I just don't want him to get insecure about it, like he has with other intimate things. I drop hints by not showing response when he starts to act like I'm a chew toy, but it doesn't work. I have however, brought up the idea of watching movies with him, he's agreed to it, so maybe I'll lightly drop the bomb there.... But all in all, he's a great man and an exceptional lover--just not with that one bit of foreplay. Thanks for the laughs and opinions!

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rosha267 21

If you're comfortable enough to have sex with him you should be comfortable enough to talk to him about it

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JMichael 25

Well maybe if you say something he could improve. Can't expect improvement without communication.

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allplayedout 20

You have GOT to discuss this with him, OP. You don't have to frame it as a personal attack--just take some time to guide him through what you like while having fun at the same time. Use language such as "I really like when you ___" or "I think ____ is awesome" and just show/tell him what you want. You have a bf who clearly wants to go down on you, which is the most important part! I'm sure he would happily follow your lead because it sounds like pleasing you matters to him.

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nerdsgetmehot 22

Trust me on this one...Communication is key. You need to be comfortable enough to talk about this kind of stuff. Sure, it might make him a little embarrassed at first, but it's better to talk about it.

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davincidasecond 24

Sorry, but YDI. If you don't speak up and the problem still exists, that's on you.

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1jordan1 11

I think, when it comes down to it, saying something is for the better. In the end, he'll thank you.

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Lystune42 8

I love how many people post about stuff like this. I will never understand how you can have sex with people without feeling comfortable enough to talk to them about your likes and dislikes. Sex is a two way street, which means if he does something you don't like, TELL HIM, and then you can both work together and make it a great experience for the both of you.

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qnmt 9

The only way he can improve is if someone, that means you :), tells him what he's doing wrong. Or to be kind, to guide him to do it properly. While he's down there, just give him tips on how to do it. It'll work wonders. Afterall, if he's down there, he's there to please you. Not to have an all you can eat buffet...

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missyb94 6

Oh the irony that you posted this in intimacy seeing as your relationship so lacks it. If you want a healthy relationship you should keep those secrets from him. If he doesn't know he sucks at it he can't get better.

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OscarEcho 12

OP: When he asks you that question, it is probably because he does pick up the hints you give him, and he is in fact starting to feel insecure. What he is really asking, is "what can I do to make it better for you?". He WANTS you to tell him what he is doing wrong, and this is a great opportunity to make your intimacy so much better :) . Like qnmt says, he wants to do it to make you good. I think it sounds like a good idea to watch movies together (as long as you enjoy watching movies too), that makes for good opportunities to tell him how you don't want it, without picking on what he is doing. Also, there are movies with nice, sensual loving too, which can definitely be used as a how to guide.

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