You're assuming her parents live in the US with her. Maybe they don't.

They may not live with her in America but you would assume that they'd want to visit her here instead of expecting her to always cater to them and see them. In the case of them visiting they should learn English as well. Arizona isn't a border state either so most likely they live in the U.S. and in that case they should try to learn the country's native language.

#20 I agree, her family may not live in the US, what a cheap prejudice. I'm French and my fiancé Irish. I expect him to learn French eventually to communicate with my family. I will teach French to our kids and I would like him to be able to talk with them in my language. Besides, learning a language requires commitment and motivation, especially for a difficult language like Korean. So I doubt her boyfriend will actually go far in his learning if his goal is to sing along Gangnam Style…

I can agree with him not wanting to learn a language after only a year of dating. It sounds to me like the issue is that OP and her bf are on two different levels in their relationship. Learning a language for your partner's family is a HUGE sign of commitment. And in a country with such a high divorce rate, ya bf probably wouldnt want to make that kind of gesture after only ONE year. That kind of thing sets up expectations and I can't fault him for not wanting to rush into things too soon. It really seems like a lot of FMLers want to jump down his throat because "OMG you didnt commit youself to the woman you're dating for one whole year! OP should dump him and find a better man!" Honestly, that's the kind of mindset that pushes partners away, both men and women. I guess the "male version" of it would be when a man invites his mother along on the second date (i read an FML like that a while ago). Again, it sets up expectations of commitment that might make the other partner feel uncomfortable to have forced on him/her. Also, #32 if the parents dont live in the US, then learning their language wouldnt be a high priority after just a year. I mean, I dont see how many people would go to another country to meet them after such a short period of time, as opposed to if they lived in the same area and were within driving distance. Maybe if they were dating for a few years, and the bf was possibly thinking of proposing, then he would want to meet his potential future in-laws. and #38 Arizona is a boarder state with Mexico. Though where the parents live is irrelevant, I'm just pointing it out.

Arizona isn't a border state? Perhaps you use a different map. That must be it.

#38, let me know when you're in your 50s/60s how easy it is to learn a new language.

38 - So, according to your logic, all of the American tourists know the language of the countries they visit. I had no idea, considering I've seen a bunch of tourists in my country who can't speak a word of Spanish. 46 - I just find it sad that people don't really care about learning languages. Why does learning another language have to be a huge sign of commitment? If I were OP's boyfriend, I would try to learn, not for her family, but because learning languages is awesome and useful. What better time is there to learn a language than when you actually have someone to practice it with?

38 - Arizona is a border state, you dumbass. That's why half of our population is illegals who refuse to learn English. Which is why I personally refuse to learn Spanish. And honestly, I know this will get thumbed down because you all think I'm being ignorant, but until you live here and on a DAILY BASIS interact with people who do not speak English (yet have customer service jobs in America) you really cannot judge. It's incredibly frustrating to deal with incompetent drivers who don't know the laws because they don't know our language.

I agree. I am Korean, and live there too, and I learned English (they teach it in our schools) not just because it was expected of me, but because someday I might move to the U.S., and I want to stretch my communication and understanding skills.

No, she's pissed that he would rather learn Korean for Gangnam Style than learn Spanish for her family.

Exactly. My boyfriends parents speak Spanish and a little bit of English and I can communicate with them. I'm learning Spanish for cultural diversity and for accommodation.