Not always deciding for them and let's be honest most do not take that decision seriously enough. I think in normal situations it's a desire to protect them from getting hurt from somebody who is not good for them or not with them for the right reasons. Think of it as seeing your best friend going home with a guy you know only wants to sleep with her when she wants a relationship. It isn't that you think you get to make the decision you just want something good for them.

I don't know about yours, but my friends aren't dumb enough to go home with a guy and have sex with him without any discussion of a relationship and expect to be dating him the next morning. If she's going home with a guy she don't know well(presuming they aren't drunk off she ass), I'm going to assume she's fully capable of deciding she's decided she only wanted a hook up for that night.

take a step back? skyrim shuffle? oh and kids these days need strict parents.

I agree with 32, and the thing is a lot of these kids are under 18 and the parent is trying to protect them of the dangers of sleeping around or being with someone that isn't good for them or only interested in them for sex. When I was 16 I was dating an 19 year old and he wasn't good for me at all. My parents were really strict and forbid me to see him and stuff and I just rebelled and dated him anyways. Looking back I wish I had listened and didn't date him, my parents also wish they handled it better and voiced their opinions but in a more calm manner and weren't so strict. I think the key is to let them know what you think, calmly and lovingly, letting them know what you're worried about, but then supporting them and letting them know that you are there to talk with if they need anything.

And 63, yes most friends aren't that stupid, but there are a lot of girl friends that can be easily blinded by a charming guy. And in the case above they were talking about kids under 18 who are sometimes very stupid with the choices they make. :)

Hopefully she will wait until she is absolutely sure this fellow cares for her before sleeping with him. It's not our business but I'd just recommend caution when being with someone who has had that many partners, especially when she has had none.

My boyfriend had slept with more than 10 people and I was a virgin when we me - I waited a few months before I was ready to sleep with him and he was totally fine about it and didn't pressure me. We've been together nearly 4 years now. Having a lot of sexual partners doesn't mean you're a shitty person or you've used the people you've slept with, it can just mean you've had a lot of casual sex with people who wanted the same thing.

Casual sex is a sad concept by itself personally I'd rather not be with someone who enjoys or has enjoyed sleeping with people they did not care about. Just my opinion.

You might think it's a sad concept. Others don't. Neither opinion deserves judgement. Each to their own. My fiancé has had casual partners, and he's been married and has two children. I know that I would prefer him to only have had casual partners. But I love him regardless (and his children), and he treats me well. That's what's important to me.

I agree. I think she should be careful in this situation and not allow him to pressure her until she is sure she is ready. (It also sounds like they're teenagers or early 20's). I'd be very careful in that situation if I was her. Guys who have had a lot of sex tend to pressure without always being aware of it, and if Op is a virgin she may and up doing it because of the pressure. Be careful Op.

Condoms though.

Do not block all STDs or STIs especially when he's done it with TEN women.

No, but it protects against many of them and having sex with multiple partners in a lifetime really isn't unusual or cause to scream "STDs!" anyway. Many people have had sex with many other people and have never had an issue. It's called being responsible and knowing who you are having sex with. Meanwhile you assume that OP's boyfriend will **** anything that moves and doesn't bother being responsible/careful regardless of diseases. Even degrading him as a "that" like he's automatically disease ridden. I mean, really.

TEN? good heavens! Its called context people, over ten years that's not many. Or alternatively people practise safe sex for fun not love, simple stuff.

@40 The way the OP wrote this I assume they're underaged or at least under 21. 10 lovers under the age of 25 is a bit too promiscuous for anyone.

I definitely think she should tell his dad and be sure the boyfriend backs her up and makes sure she isn't talked to like that again.

This was about op "stealing" his virginity not breaking his heart, he seems more like he would the heartbreaking type

And of course I get thumbed down for agreeing with the OP... wow...