By onyinye - 19/11/2015 13:09 - Germany - Neum?nster

Today, my fiancé finally went to a therapy session with me because of the difficult circumstances we are facing. Afterwards, he shouted at me for "talking to someone about our problems". I told him that's kind of the point of therapy. Now he's sulking. FML
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hey guys, OP here. We have been together for several years now and we've been through a lot. I'd say we have grown together and our relationship is great in general. However, a lot of bad stuff has happened in the past (I got raped and he kinda blames himself for not being there for me and protecting me at that time, which he couldn't, because he got falsely accused of dealing drugs and was behind bars for a couple of months until they let him go). About the marrying stuff, we are still engaged and want to get married in the future, but considering the circumstances we have decided to wait for things to settle before actually setting a date and going through with it. I think the reason why he got angry is that he usually sees himself as "the strong man" and the protector and while he is comfortable talking to me alone, he felt really uncomfortable being vulnerable in front of a stranger.

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A1NoSauce 17

Wow... That definitely is a lot to go through as a couple. I hope you two can works things out somehow. Best of luck, OP.

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UnidentifiedFun 37

If he's not willing to make it work by using a common remedy, either find a way to talk through things yourself, or reevaluate your decision to marry him

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Tripartita 44

Therapy isn't all race cars and video games like it used to be…

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MariaGiovanni 25

Sounds like he's not mature enough to be in a relationship let alone someone's fiancé. Hopefully next session you can address this because if he doesn't want to accept the help then it won't work. Good Luck.

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Death546 25

Sounds like he's being childish. Tell him to stop sulking and work with you to overcome your problems.

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GigaPudding_fml 24

What exactly did he think you were going to do there if not talk about your problems...?

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limegreenpoopie 31

He will get used to it, once he find out how much it helps.

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EyRaB 17

He's in denial and trying to resist what he knows deep down is right for the both of you. Let's hope that he can master his own psyche with future therapy sessions

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ThrottleJockey 35

Anyone else find it a little disturbing that psychotherapist split up is PSYCHO THE RAPIST? No wonder people are hesitant to go to them.

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olpally 32

It may be time to walk away from him completely... He gets upset because he doesn't understand. He sounds like a man-child, not in a good way either.

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SweetasCandy0609 28

first of all, If you guys are having trouble communicating now it will only get worse after you get married if you don't get help now, so he needs to stop acting like a child and grow up if he wants your relationship to work and Second of all, If he doesn't actually try and do his part in the relationship I wouldn't even bother getting married just because you put rings on doesn't mean it will last any relationship takes work on both sides if he's not putting the effort in and you're the only one trying then it's just going to crash and burn. I hope everything works out for you OP, Please give us a follow-up so we know how it all unfolds Good Luck OP.

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