By theaaxis - 26/11/2014 21:43 - United States

Today, my mother requested that I return the $500 she had previously given me to help me pay for college. Her reasoning? "You work three jobs, you can afford it." I work three jobs because she decided buying herself a car was more important than my schooling. FML
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theaaxis 27

Wow, this got published! To give a little background, my mom had been telling me for years that she would pay for my first two years of college, though she's a fickle woman, so I kept a backup plan. When she withdrew the offer, I accepted the situation gracefully, and am now taking a gap year, working 77 hours a week, so I won't have to depend on her. Any resentment over the money is over the week's notice I was given, which even still makes me worry about her financial situation more so than my own. That she wants even the gift back does bother me a little, but I by no means expected her to pay my way through life, and am very much financially independent. Thanks much to the many of you who understood!

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illinoiscentral 16

not after she gave it as a gift. At that point it stopped being her money and started being OP's money.

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Steffi3 40

Well, if she wants to buy a car, she should be allowed. It stinks that she makes you return her gift, though. It's a gift, after all

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dtlagueux 7

My parents have already told me that they won't pay for my school. Not because they can't, but because they don't want to. They paid their ways through school and expect me to as well. It's not an obligation for them to pay for it

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Shade1982 20

Actually, in being a parent it kinda is. There can be many reasons not to pay for your child's education, trying to teach the value of money, trying to teach you to be independent, but "not an obligation" is definitely not one of them in my book. I don't want my child to miss out on any opportunities because "I didn't feel like it". There are other ways to handle it, maybe arrange for a loan contract between parent and child, so the child can pay it back later. But I think the parent will regret it later if they had a chance to help their child get ahead in life, but the child couldn't afford it.

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lizlala 15

Dunno how it is in other countries, but around here most people I know pay university with their own money. University students are over 18 and adults, which means the parents legally have NO obligations to pay shit...

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Durantye 8

There is no legal obligation 105, but an ethical one. If you bring a child into the world without the intention to assist them in education, you clearly should not have brought them into the world. Nearly every country the parents tend to pay for their child's education if the parents are capable in anyway.

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jaydemonkey 6

I hate to say this but your mom sounds like a greedy bitch.

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eabk 1

Legally, you do not have to pay someone back for a gift, which is what you're implying it was. So as long as it was a gift, you legally do not have to pay her back, even if she says she wants to take it back.

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lbanks_fml 10

Not enough info. Did she have no car? If it's out of necessity that she bought the car-quit being a whiny bitch. 3 jobs?? BUY A CAR, moron.

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stonedfly3 15

Makes me feel lucky to live in Australia and be able to HECS my fees (basically a no-interest loan from the government that you pay back when you earn over $x). Although that may change soon

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Durantye 8

No a parent is not 'required' to pay for their child's education after high school. But, any half decent parent that can remotely afford to do so would. Buying a new car is extremely limited in what we know about that exact situation, but asking you to return 500$ to her when you're working 3 jobs is literally the definition of bad parenting.

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ffckshthappens 1

That's life!! Deal with it your an adult & should be proud that you can survive on your own

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asargent 14

I swear to god if you gave her that money i'll slap the shit outta you

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i8cake 12

Your mom isn't obligated to pay for your school. While it is appreciated, you're not entitled. Stretch out her repayment to $20 a month...

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