By Anonymous - 22/11/2015 05:45 - United States - Ossining

Today, we buried my mom. I walked past my sister's husband just in time to hear him mutter: "Hope the fire's nice and hot down there, you old hag." I told my sister. She wouldn't believe me and accused me of trying to start drama. FML
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rachelthelime_fml 29

Sounds like he'll be seeing that fire. My condolences to you OP, I hope you feel better soon

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Tripartita 44

Oh, it is! They got a real good heating guy who hooked them up with some sick insulation and temperature regulation controls! None of that cheap, cold fire you get in, like, purgatory.

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smoothies14 32

I know it's disrespectful to your mom, but nothing good could come of telling. You should've just let it go.

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jackassthebadass 11

Maybe your mom shouldn't have been an asshole

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saffy66 34

For all any of you know, this lady could have given her son-in-law hell. I understand OP's reaction but it would have been better to speak with the brother-in-law personally rather than tell the sister. He's going to be her source of comfort; of course she's never going to believe anything bad against him right now.

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Girlshotdown1 21

OP im sorry for your loss my condolences but you should of set him out right then and there.

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PegLegRacing 34

May have been in bad taste to say something, even under your breath thinking no one will hear you. But I like how everyone is acting like it's completely outside the realm of possibility that his mother in law was a bitch, terrible person, treated him like shit, or something to that effect. Just because someone dies doesn't automatically mean they are a good person.

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Badkarma4u 17

We get it, but we also get that if you want to piss one somenes grave don't do it while the family is standing there.

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heyLaddieHey 18

I'm sorry you lost your mom....but, it was just trying to start drama even if he did say that. So your brother in law didn't like your mother. It happens in a lot of families, and she's gone now. So it doesn't matter if he likes her or not, as long as he doesn't come to family gatherings rejoicing.

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interesting33 36

I don't think it was trying to start drama by OP, I think OP was angry and felt her sister must know that her husband had been so disrespectful. It is one thing to not like someone, but another to say that at a funeral - especially loud enough to be heard. He should have been supporting his wife.

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ChibiChibi_fml 27

The brother in law muttered it which implies he wasn't actually intended to be heard. The fact that he was at the funeral for a person that he clearly didn't care for means he was already being there for and supporting his wife. It really was, in my opinion, unnecessary to tell the sister what the OP overheard him saying. He's entitled to his opinion and just because he didn't care for mom doesn't mean he doesn't love his wife so really what good can come from telling the sister what he said? It was pretty much starting drama for the sake of starting drama. Especially since it is possible that the mother in law treated the brother in law badly. There are a lot of broken in-law relationships out in the world.

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DoomedGemini 37

It's like people don't realize some people in relationships actually talk about things and try to explain that some shit like this isn't okay..

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ChibiChibi_fml 27

I realize people discuss things like this. My point is that there isn't really anything to discuss. If they are the talking type than chances are that the OP's sister is already aware of how the mom and her husband get/got along. The thing is though that even if she wasn't, it doesn't matter. Mom's gone and so is any chance of a change in relationship between her and her daughters husband. They should all just feel how they feel.

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writerchic85 25

I wouldn't push it any further or you will be the one who starts drama

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confused_wandere 26

That's absolutely horrible OP, but it does sound like he didn't mean for anyone to hear. I mean, how do we know that the mother-in-law didn't treat him like a piece of shit? How do we know that she WASN'T an old hag? It's the wrong place to say it maybe, but why should he lie and say good things about her if there's nothing good to say?

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Badkarma4u 17

At a persons funeral with their family present. If you dont have anything good to say, don't say anything. Now later at the pub with your friends. Feel free to say whatever you want. There is a time and place for everything.

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xxkrystalxx 14

So sorry for your loss, op. Something tells me its going to be him seeing that fire.

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nitrog100 21

He's entitled to his opinion. Overhearing someone's private opinion and then trying to start drama over it is something a spoiled child would do. Why couldn't you just leave well enough alone and let your brother-in-law hate your mother in peace?

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interesting33 36

I really don't think OP was acting like a spoiled child. OP is grieving. They need support and it sounds to me like OP felt the sister should know that her husband had acted so disrespectfully. He doesn't have to respect the mother in law, but he does have to respect the people around him who are mourning. He should not have said that at that time and OP telling their sister is, in my opinion, perfectly fine. OP was upset and wanted to talk to someone about it and also felt their sister deserved to know.

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iwadasn 32

If OP's brother-in-law despised his MIL so much that he absolutely couldn't keep his hatred to himself even at her funeral, then he shouldn't have attended it. He has every right to feel the way he does, but it is completely inappropriate of him to voice those feelings at her funeral. If he can't put aside his own feelings to offer comfort and support to his wife while she's mourning her mother's death, then he's the one who's petty and immature.

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