By bdk_2020 - 17/01/2010 00:16 - United Kingdom

Today, whilst working at the supermarket, a man came through my checkout who couldn't open the plastic bags. I thought it would be a laugh to make fun of him because of it, saying "Come on! What's wrong with you?". Turns out he has arthritis. And Parkinson's Disease. He left, more than angry. FML
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Ok. I've tried explaining why I did what I did, but I'm still getting the death threats and a lot of the word '****' being used to show your disdain. I would like to tell you what really happened, not because I want you on my side or I'm trying to defend what I did. I just want you to see that what happened was based on simple stupidity and not because I'm the spawn of satan. So here's you some of the stuff you've all assumed that I would like to put right: - 1. This man was not at all elderly. He must have been 45-50 years old. You don't have to be elderly to have Parkinson's Disease. See Michael J. Fox for proof of that. 2. I offered to pack for him before he started struggling himself. He was alone, so I felt I should help him. He declined. That's why I thought he could do it himself. 3. I had no idea he was suffering from arthritis or Parkinson's Disease. I'd never met him before. He was struggling to open the bags, like myself and most people do, and so I made the very stupid comment based on that. 4. No, I didn't notice the shaking associated with Parkinson's Disease. I know that people think Cashier's are all idiots, wasters and the job is really easy, but you do have to focus on the screen in front of you to check the identity and the price of the item is correct. Therefore, I was barely focusing on his movements or his mannerisms. I was just doing what I'm paid to do. 5. As soon as he told me what was wrong, and I then focused on him properly, I then noticed he had a mild tremor in his hands. 6. I immediately apologised for what I said, feeling terrible. I then opened all the bags for him and offered to pack. He declined because, like you, he thought I had made fun of him because of his disability. I tried to explain, but he didn't want to hear. 7. If I knew he was struggling because he had a medical reason for not being able to open the bags, I would never had said it and would have made him let me pack. I would hate it if I saw someone who clearly had a disability not being able to do something and I'm just standing there ignoring it - That IS evil. 8. He left angry and hurt. I was left feeling horrible and guilty for being so stupid. 9. I wanted to post the FML not to get sympathy. As I said, I felt terrbile for upsetting him, and I just wanted to get it off my chest. I wanted to show people how much of an ass I'd been that day. 10. FML is all about bad things that have happened to you or that you have done. I felt that my stupidity for saying that to a man I didn't know was an FML moment. In retrospect, I realise that the way I worded the FML sounds like I was being cruel. I can understand why you are all upset. But to say I deserve to die or have all this offensive language thrown in my direction was ok? You know nothing about me. To assume that I always behave like this, that I'm this evil, vindictive bastard, based on one stupid comment... Well, I really don't know. Furthermore, why would I post this as an FML moment if I enjoy being horrible to people? It's because I hate myself for being so stupid that I posted this. Again, I really am sorry if I offended anyone. The last thing I wanted was all of this, so I just hope this post will clears it all up.

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Wow, you really are a piece of shit. Have fun with all that karmic payback you have coming, asshole.

sugarcoated 1

I'm gonna take a guess. Sainsbury's right? I work there. I don't understand why it is that *most* people can't open them. Also, when I started I was told to be playful about it with the customers. If you don't make conversation ad you're observed or sent a mystery shopper you're in the shit anyway =/. There isn't enough to talk about - shopping is the most mundane thing ever. I once commented on how many different newspapers a lady was buying, assuming she was buying them for her neighbours too. She then told me she had cancer and was dying soon. It hurt too much to go out often, she didn't have a family or friends to get them, so once a month she would go out and buy one of each to pass the time and read everything cover to cover. The people who are making jackass bully comments have clearly never working somewhere you'll be sacked from if you so much as take three days off in a year without a doctor's note or - Godforbid - your damn smile faulters =/

shalizzz 0

Oh, yeah, your job is SOOOOOOO difficult.......you have to be nice to your customers for the entire 5-10 min they each spend around you......I mean, c'mon, you deserve a freakin' medal! And the right to offend people!

Okay #181, I am assuming you have never worked as a cashier before. Everyone who has ever worked/is working as a cashier will agree with me - it's a hard, stressful job. Do you think it's easy to stand at that register for long periods of time, with a few, short breaks in between? It's not. I've had to work up to 11 hours, with a total of about 50 minutes of (unpaid) break time. I know that there's other people who have had worse. We have to stand up for all that time. Have you tried standing up for that long? Maybe you should try it, see how hard it can be. Now the actual job - in theory, it's pretty simple. You scan the items, place them in bags (if applicable) and collect payment for the goods. Sounds easy, right? Well, it's not. What with items not scanning correctly, angry customers, impatient customers, the machines breaking down, being understaffed and unable to serve all the customers quick enough, it quickly becomes a stressful job. Oh, and did I mention how you have to smile and be happy throughout all of this? And all of this for minimum wage? It's frustrating, and customers yelling and abusing you as you try to serve them quickly and just move on. Be happy for five to ten minutes while the customer is around you? You're forgetting the next customer, and the next one, and the next one, and the next one, until you have 8 hours of customers you need to be happy to. It's hard. That being said, I am not saying that ANY cashier has the right to offend people, but all I'm saying is that it hurts just as much when the customers offend US. They don't have the right either. And it happens. Mistakes happen, what this cashier did was wrong and probably could be a fireable offence - or at least a written warning - but he acknowledged his mistake and takes complete blame, and feels guilty. No need for nasty words and threats. I find the bags at work extremely hard to open without wet fingers, so we have water pads in order to open the bags better - but even then it's still hard, and customers have even more trouble, because they don't do it as often as me. Instead of telling them they're useless I normally joke with them that I'm useless at opening them too, or how the bags are designed poorly. This goes over MUCH better.

shalizzz 0

You're right, I've never worked as a cashier ......You know what I've worked as? A waitess in a bar! I would work 12 hours shifts, so yeah, I used to spend AT LEAST 8-9 hours on my feet (and I would spend that time rushing from one place to the other, not standing in the same place like a cashier does)........Sometimes, I had to "hold it" for hours simply because I couldn't even spare 5 min to get to the ladies room And you have to deal with angry customers? How about dealing with drunk customers ON A REGULAR BASIS.....You know, the kind that believe they are irresistable when they've had one to many....... and then they start offering you one night stands and try to put their filthy hands on you......Imagine how great of a job that is! And my boss didn't allow us to be rude to customers, so I had to decline politely and try to keep them away from me while still having a smile on my face.......while imagining how great it would feel to cut their hands off!!!! Not to mention the fact that EVERY SINGLE DAY I had to deal with at least a couple of clients who thought they had the right to treat me like s**t just because I was paid to serve them their drinks. And all of this so that I could earn some extra money during University........ And I've never ever insulted a customer! So, you see, everyone has to deal with stress at the job........ But not everyone chooses to be an a-hole!

I never said that we deserve to insult people. As I mentioned we shouldn't be able to insult people, and most of us don't - I'm just saying that a cashier job is hard, and I never said that it was the hardest job out there. It's just harder than you think, however knowing you have worked in a bar I think you can empathise with our job, as I can with you. We both have to deal with unruly customers, and we both have to do it with a smile on our face, on our feet for too long and paid shit. (I think, I'm not sure whether you get better pay or not, I don't know and it's pretty irrelevant anyway.) I agree with you that everyone has to deal with stress in their job - but in your first post implied that you thought a cashier job was easy, and I was merely telling you about how it isn't, but I would never dream for a minute it's the hardest job out there. I'm a cashier for a butchery and I am thankful that I am out the front of the store selling, because it's way more stressful out the back. All in all, OP was wrong, but not all cashiers do this. Infact I would be hard pushed to find a cashier would actually did this - at least not by mistake. We all know we have to be nice to the customers, no matter how hard it is, and as do you. I think everyone who has to deal with customers can agree that the job sucks :P But I'm thankful I HAVE a job, and so I'm not gonna rock the boat by being rude, just smile, and smile, and smile... and then be pissed once my shift is over. #188, the first day is ALWAYS the worst. ALWAYS.

Dick. Head. Some Americans can be seriously stupid.

Because this could NEVER happen, and never DOES happen, anywhere else in the world. I don't agree with what he did, but I don't agree with you bringing Americans into it. Way to be stereotypical.

It says this post is from Bristol. But yea I agree, I don't understand how we can have so much homework and STILL not be as smart as our neighbors all around the world. (this mostly applies to kids, 'cause the other day someone asked if Canada was a continent, and I'm just appalled.)

Vexlor 0

How is this stereotypical if he said 'Some' ?

Well, using that logic, #187, I guess I can say that "Some [black/gay/Asian/ethnic/choice group] of people can be [insert insult here]", and actually not got flamed. Yeah. Right. If you haven't noticed, it drives British people up a wall when people say, "Some Brits are really stupid." Same concept. But it's okay for them to sum "Some" of us up like that? Sorry, but saying "Some" before a stereotype is like people saying, "With all due respect, [insert insult here]." Or even better, "Hey Hey Taylor, I'mma let you finish, but...". Just because you say it with a "thought-out disclaimer prefix" doesn't make it any less hurtful. Better off just keeping his mouth shut if, regarding Americans, he's got nothing nice to say. Kind of like this FML. Haven't we learned anything yet?

That sucks.. It's moments like these that you can't say YDI because he didn't know but happened to make that mistake of making fun of him. At least you feel guilty about it. :)

Vexlor 0

@#186: I agree completely. I worked as a cashier for a day and I decided that I NEVER Wanted to do it again. It was horrible... @#181: Ever heard the saying 'Don't judge someone until you have walked a mile in their shoes'? Maybe you should try things out before you go and say how easy they are. @All the haters: How can you guys be so hypocritical? Don't even try to tell me you have never made a mistake in your life. It happens to everyone so get over it. He made a mistake and his punishment for that was loosing a customer. He does not have to sit here and listen to a bunch of haters and trolls tell him what an ass you think he is.

haha yer stressed out the ass gee. that was a dick move smh yeah FYL

nellia 0

u just got cursed with the same disease in about 5 yrs u will be hospitalized and it will be too late and u will die and no one will care.