And how would you feel if your daughter found out one day that you read her diary? Do you think she would trust you? If you had spent the time actually talking to her, maybe she would have opened up and told you about the boy problems or her feelings toward you. That is how you establish trust with your kids, not going behind their backs.

Get her to a hospital ASAP before she kills y'all are the kids at school.

Don't read your kids diary

So many kids have been getting worse and worse these days. Even if their parents do the best for them, they get it from schools, TV, and music. When I came back from a private school when I was 12 and went to a public I was shocked at how the other kids my age acted. I hope you and your husband give her a big talk and try to set her straight. Nine is way too young to be acting this way...

She just overly mentally mature, that's all

Though it was wrong to read her diary i still say fyl. She might need some help.

Wow, so wrong with both parties. One, never open another persons diary, just plain rude and disrespectful of peoples own thoughts and feelings, its as personal as it gets. But a such a young person thinking about other people sexuality , we have to thanks the media for that one. Well if you want to be that more involved in your child's life, I think you should be honest with yourself first and then to your child. and maybe she will open up. Can't have a relationship based on lies, many people do it, but does it make your insides happy, if it does congrats, keep up the good work, if not then go for all.

You need to keep in mind that people in general tend to remember the bad over the good. She might not write down how happy she was at the movies, but will write down how embarrassed you made her feel at dinner. I say identify the themes that she dislikes and try to change them. For example, does she find you ask too many questions? Instead of constantly asking try to think of a broad question and use your brain to fill in the blanks (for example if she remarks tommy is cute you can infer tommy is a boy she sees often, so probably a classmate). Or that you don't ask enough questions? In this case even if you inferred a piece of information (such as that he was a classmate) ask it anyways. Now there are obviously several things you can't change. You can't let her eat ice cream for breakfast every day, let her not brush her teeth/shower, etc. But do such whimsical fantasies actually matter in the long run? Is there anyone who really says "my parents were so bad they didn't let me eat candy at every meal"? tl;dr: if it concerns you OP adjust to your daughter more. She seems mature for her age, which because a lot of kids aren't results in cynicism and disappointment. That doesn't mean treat her like an adult at the age of 9. I would doubt she actually knows what homosexuality is and only knows "gay" as males who platonically like other males and don't have any female friends. But try to make changes so that your daughter's mood improves.

Indeed you have, mostly for the fact of looking into your childs' own personal things. Does she not have the right to her own personal belongings, ideas, and thoughts?

@ Everyone who is on the childs side - No, the child doesnt have any rights to privacy at 9 years old. I'm sure OP wasn't flipping through the diary for ***** and giggles, but probably for a legitimate reason. People jumping down OP's throat are a joke and can have a seat.