Bitterness

By Anonymous - 07/01/2024 22:00 - Sweden - Lidingoe

Today, I ran into a guy I haven't seen since high school. He started ranting about what an asshole I was for not inviting him to my birthday party when I was 12. We're 50 now, the party was cancelled because my granddad died, and we were not friends anyway, I just hung out with him as I felt sorry for him sometimes. FML
I agree, your life sucks 573
You deserved it 106

Same thing different taste

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38 years is a long time to carry a grudge for something as minor as that! ... You never know just what is going to be a big deal to someone or how they connect a perceived slight to their general unhappiness. OP, don't sweat it. It was a very long time ago - It's this person's problem not yours. If and only if you know you will have to deal with this person on a regular basis, I'd give a simple apology and explanation but not allow them to emotionally blackmail me into anything more. Sometimes a simple apology helps, even if you don't think you really did anything very wrong. But don't let them use that to manipulate you into anything else.

The thing about friendship is that it's entirely voluntary. You don't have to be a friend unless you genuinely like the person and they like you. Not everyone is going to click as a friend... We normally have both friends and acquaintances. It sounds like OP and the person in question were acquaintances to me. Although an acquaintance is not a friend, it's still better than nothing... Not everyone is going to be a close friend. We need to know the difference and accept people for who they are.

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38 years is a long time to carry a grudge for something as minor as that! ... You never know just what is going to be a big deal to someone or how they connect a perceived slight to their general unhappiness. OP, don't sweat it. It was a very long time ago - It's this person's problem not yours. If and only if you know you will have to deal with this person on a regular basis, I'd give a simple apology and explanation but not allow them to emotionally blackmail me into anything more. Sometimes a simple apology helps, even if you don't think you really did anything very wrong. But don't let them use that to manipulate you into anything else.

I hope your adult 50 knows why hanging out with someone out of pity and then using it as an excuse for not acting as a friend is not a nice thing to do...

The thing about friendship is that it's entirely voluntary. You don't have to be a friend unless you genuinely like the person and they like you. Not everyone is going to click as a friend... We normally have both friends and acquaintances. It sounds like OP and the person in question were acquaintances to me. Although an acquaintance is not a friend, it's still better than nothing... Not everyone is going to be a close friend. We need to know the difference and accept people for who they are.