well he is not wrong

Your son isn’t free childcare. Your kids your problem.

Parentification is a form of abuse, if you don’t start trying to make it up to him for the right reasons now then he’s gone forever

"Dads"? As in plural? He actually sounds like a remarkably wise young man.

So...you chose to have multiple kids by multiple deadbeat men, in a short period of time, and you *actually* expect sympathy because your oldest child won't stick around and be a free babysitter for you? Either you're the most delusional bitch on the planet, or you made this up for attention. I'm choosing to believe the latter.

you need to grow up. it's not his fault you picked the wrong man or don't know what birth control is. pay for childcare or get on assistance and they'll offer lower cost childcare.

You suck for expecting your oldest to look after *your* children, especially for free. Once in a while is okay, but expecting your then minor son to watch them constantly is parentification, which is child abuse. I don't blame him at all for leaving; you're lucky he didn't call CPS. Your son owes you nothing; sue the other fathers for child support (as your son suggested), and apply for government child benefits. Also, I advise you seek professional therapy. You owe your son a huge apology.

So you literally ****** around and found out and now you're whining about it. Fantastic 'mother' material you are...

That is your problem.

Your son is more grown up than you.