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By Anonymous - This FML is from back in 2016 but it's good stuff - United States - San Antonio

Today, I had to politely nod and say, "Ah, OK…" as my grandpa told me that he's not racist; he just doesn't think it's right for black men to associate with white women. He's well aware that my boyfriend is black. FML
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jttorkildson 21

Why couldn't you politely tell him that you absolutely don't agree and in the future, you will be more comfortable if he keeps his racist thoughts to himself?

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Tripartita 44

What a moron! Everybody knows the TRUE measure of racial tolerance is how many friends of other races you have.

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DragonSlayer1234 8

That's not racist for him to say that at all. It's just his simple opinion it's not like he said "LEAVE THAT ****** ASSHOLE"

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Peatoria 10

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Mathalamus 24

i would just ignore his racism. just a product of an old era, and never changed with the times. people like that should be left behind.

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Ellie Rogers 9

Was someone holding a gun to your head? No? Okay then, you didn't "have" to do anything. I don't care if it's the president of the good ole' USOFA. If someone is saying something that disgustingly disrespectful, you need to let them know that it will not be tolerated. In a polite manner, of course. But doing absolutely nothing is letting him win and he will continue to belittle your boyfriend as long as you let him.

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Theguyinthedark 11

When you've believed something your whole life it's hard to change that belief. Too late for the old dude. But you turned out awesome. That's something.

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gracehi 31

My late grandmother, who generally wasn't a hateful person, held a similar view. She felt that people of different races shouldn't marry because "their children suffer." She missed the irony that the only reason they'd suffer is because of people who thought like her. Unfortunately, you'd have a difficult time finding any elderly person of any race who doesn't disapprove of interracial couples. It's easier, however, to find one with the sense and decency to keep that view to themselves when knowingly speaking to a member of an interracial couple. Your grandfather's a dick, not just because of that opinion, but because he deliberately hurt you by vocalizing it. Please don't feel like you can't contradict him when he says stuff like that. If he loves you like a grandfather should love his granddaughter, he'll eventually come to accept you and your relationship, or at the very least, stop openly objecting to it.

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IDontKnowaName73 17

I had a great uncle who called Asians orientals until the day he died

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Calingaladha 21

If someone starts a sentence with "I'm not racist, but...", you can pretty much guarantee they will follow that with something racist.

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HonestPie 10

I'm not racist but black people seem to have dark skin

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cottonballs27 5

my grandparents are the same way. just keep in mind in the end it's what makes YOU happy. everyone has a type and a preference don't let what he says let you down!

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NostalgiaFreak9 41

The state that this story is from doesn't surprise me at all.

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gracehi 31

My grandmother was born and raised in New Jersey and she used to say pretty much the same thing. Does that surprise you? Talk about prejudice.

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NostalgiaFreak9 41

I am fully aware that people can be racist regardless of where they're from, but most of the time I myself hear about racism, it usually coming from the south. And I am aware that not all southerners are like that.

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gracehi 31

If you're so "aware" then why is the state even relevant to you? Because it's not relevant. This is a generational issue not a geographical issue. Educate yourself.

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BrotherPhil 35

It is a generational issue, but it is also a geographical one - a lot of the "good old boy" states seem to glory in their racist past in a way the the Union ones don't , and to go out of their way to pass laws against anyone who is not a rich old "white" man.

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