I think sometimes people don't fully think about what they're saying. What you're essentially suggesting if you follow this out full term would mean that you should have sex with everyone that you date. I get that some people don't want to wait till they're married because they don't understand why someone would do that. I also can understand why people would want to do that. I have no problem with them not dating because their standards don't align. Suggesting however that it's her fault says far more about you than op.

Saving oneself for marriage is a valid dealbreaker. The fact that this guy "thought religious girls were all secret sl#ts like in the adult movies" is not, and falls into FYL for OP for me.

So it’s ok to consider a woman a **** but not to respect her beliefs?

I know Charlie won't be swayed by this but I know other people might read this comment and think he's right. What Charlie said is completely wrong and false. I've even done research and written about this at university. Marriages were both people are the same religion are far more likely to succeed. Living together before marriage leads to more divorces. People imagine that it's like trying it out beforehand so it'll be safer but it's actually worse when you look at the statistics. Charlie knows nothing and his so-called facts are all wrong and polar opposite from the truth.

I'm really curious where your statistics come from because I would love to see those numbers. Maybe you can post the website of the data sets that you've explored.

sex is an important part of the relationship and finding out your needs and wants aren't the same after is huge. it can/does lead to Infidelity especially when divorce is not an option.