I'm sorry for your loss, OP. Grief does crazy things to people. If that type of behavior is outside her regular conduct, I hope you can put it behind you. If that is normal for her, I'm sorry you don't have a more supportive and compassionate step-sister.

Love FML and wouldn't of read this without it ......but I simply don't understand the ' deserve it' button especially when it comes to a subject as serious and heartfelt as this. I have lost both of my parents to which my dad was my sisters stepdad. .......who clothed her fed her watched out for her and gave a shit. My partner is stepdad to my daughter and he does more for her every day than her dad's done in the last 5 yrs !! ???A step parent is a truly remarkable person. They make the choice to love another's child as there own ???

I think your step sister may have harboured feelings of jealousy that his step daughter had an amazing relationship with him. It's a tough time for everyone. But I feel your pain. I am glad you had a loving relationship with your dad. Most step parents don't get to experience a true bond with their step kids. I am glad he did with you.

They say blood is thicker than water, but through my life, I have realized something. True family has nothing to do with your DNA, but is the people closest to you.

Because everyone knows if the person wasn't blood related to you, you should be an emotionless stone when they die. Makes sense.

I'm so sorry op! Step parents are just as important as your biological parents especially if they've been for you no matter what❤️ & that was an evil thing for her to say.. I hope you heal soon! One day at a time☺️

And that's when you punched her. I went through bullshit from relatives like that too, when my mom died. My paternal grandmother told me to "Stop crying, you're embarassing the family." Anyone who was at my mom's funeral and not crying didn't know my mom.

punch her in the throat

Y'know, to play Devil's Advocate for a minute, but she's probably just really upset and is lashing out without thinking. Maybe she was jealous of your relationship, I don't know. You've both suffered so I guess at the moment you just have a lot of feelings to work out. (Also, your stepfather was the 'most important person in your life', but what about your mom?)

How about u kill her