It's not for everyone
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Why?
If you have not already done so, make sure that you both speak to a solicitor here and also in Italy regarding the future inheritance of your joint assets. Consider the tax consequences of your future estates. Too many people put this off, or think that it will be straightforward, when it often isn't. Otherwise, congratulations on your anniversary!
That piece of paper can be a nightmare that ruins a great relationship. Enjoy the relationship the way it is.
if a piece of paper ruins the relationship then the relationship was in trouble already.
y'all ARE married, she just doesn't want the piece of paper, that's nothing more than government interference. if 30 years isn't enough commitment to you, there's nothing else she can give you to prove it
If it ain't broke, don't fix it.
if you are not religious and don't feel the government being part of the relationship is important... I don't see the issue. And at least where I am, after a certain amount of time you become common law married. pretty much the same thing for tax and legal purposes, just without the spousal privilege in court and more paper work for property etc.
Eh, that marriage license does come with strings attached. For women, it can be a pain given the new rules for something as simple as obtaining a driver's license or passport. You have to show your birth certificate, but then if you're married you also have to show the marriage license because you changed your name, then you have to get rid of all old paperwork with your maiden name, etc. Not to mention the tax situation (many places charge more in taxes if a couple is married with children as opposed to being single with children). So perhaps she's thinking in terms of convenience. It doesn't mean she doesn't love you (obviously, if you've been together for this long and have all these kids together).
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Maybe she doesn't want to marry at all and it has nothing to do with you?
If you have not already done so, make sure that you both speak to a solicitor here and also in Italy regarding the future inheritance of your joint assets. Consider the tax consequences of your future estates. Too many people put this off, or think that it will be straightforward, when it often isn't. Otherwise, congratulations on your anniversary!