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By Milly - 17/04/2025 03:00 - Japan - Tokyo

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Today, I complained to my girlfriends that my husband constantly wants me to explore his disgusting perversions, like making me call him "Daddy" or putting me on a leash. They all started discussing all the nasty things they'd let my husband do, then said he should find a sidepiece who's "less boring." FML
I agree, your life sucks 205
You deserved it 460

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GoogieWithers 23

Sometimes, people aren't compatible. That is life.

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GoogieWithers 23

Sometimes, people aren't compatible. That is life.

Above all else, communication is key, ideally as much as possible, especially prior to marriage, to avoid shocking revelations as much as possible. Keeping that in mind, we are always growing and evolving. Ideally, with our partners in mind on both sides. You have to have genuine discussions without judgment from either party. Preface this prior to going into a serious conversation. How long has your husband been interested in these proclivities? Is this new or something he had until recently hid from you? On either side, there is a lack of communication. Keep in mind that **** and ************ are rampant and at societal record-breaking numbers globally. Not exaggerating more than 50 percent of the internet is pornographic. I'm not saying he is a deviant pervert, nor am I calling you a prude. The truth is somewhere in between. Mankind fears what it does not understand. Whatever is new and different is scary and instinctual to avoid. Keeping this in mind with the fact that your lady friends essentially are saying they would happily be your spouses side piece behind your back. As well as keeping in mind that your spouse is telling you things that would make him happy to do with you. Also, know that a relationship is meant to be 50 percent physical attraction, 50 percent mental attraction. If the relationship for either party isn't as such in either category. The relationship is on borrowed time if not already ending. Every 7 years, our cells in our bodies have been entirely replaced. Literally every 7 years, you have a new body than before. We are meant to grow and evolve. What we do change into is sometimes in our control, but also outside sources may play a significant factor. Sadly, like PTSD there are many things once seen and experienced are unforgettable, and they shape us into something new. You can't put the genie back in the bottle. Hence, a whole generation of children growing up on the internet and having known **** since childhood unfortunately has shaped our society into a culture of acceptance with over perversion. Only Fans is not even shunned or flinched at anymore. Just another job. I'm not saying there is a universal right and wrong. I feel to each their own. Whatever is right for that individual, so be it. The issue is when partners do not have the same eye to eye ideals with important issues such as romance and intimacy. We have to meet halfway, always communication always and forever, even if/especially if it's uncomfortable and awkward. Ideally, we should feel safe to tell our significant others what we feel and desire without fear of judgment. Ideally, we should know that our confidence won't be betrayed by ideal gossip. Important relationship issues should not be discussed in a group setting. Only one on one with a person you trust who has your best interest in mind. Maybe a super close friend or spouse or therapist or counselor. Otherwise, that's meant to be private. Especially when you don't know what others are also going through and in what way? Are your friends in relationships? Loveless ones? Single? Dry Spell? Either way, they are not qualified, especially all together, to help you in this regard. Now, knowing they are essentially going to try to have an affair with him if they can get away with it, what will you do? Being a male, if one approaches him on the side on the sly physiologically he may not be able to resist, nor will he put the effort, especially if he is interested in doing something that you are unwilling to provide. As far as I see it, here are some options for you to consider. 1. Get into couple's therapy, not because it's bad, but because clearly there is a lack of communication, and this will help bridge the gap, but also because if any relationship ever is happy and wants to work then it should be no big deal if it's for someone you love. Say a relationship is perfect, and both are fully in love, and everyone else is jealous. Then, that couple would still greatly benefit from therapy. 2. Express yourself fully to your spouse and say the truth. This is all new to you and seems uncomfortable and not your preference and style. 3. At which point it's up to both parties to meet halfway. Consistently forever moving forward. If you are willing, an option could be to say, "I'm not really into this, but if you are patient with me, then I'll try to do some of these things that you want." If, of course, you are willing to do so. 4. Remember you cannot put the genie back into the bottle, so either you start to aim towards that which your husband desires, making you more "perverted and depraved", to what degree is up to you should you walk down this path, but keep in mind both parties at this point will likely keep walking further down that path, at which point you both have to set boundaries and say what is too far or unacceptable. Whatever he's telling you he wants now is 20 percent of what he really wants to do, but just testing the waters trying to not freak you out so much, as well as knowing how you feel already about such things. So already he is far more horribly perverted than he is letting on thus far. So if that what is is requesting is far from the realm of possibility, know it will only grow from there. You have to ask yourself how much of you are you willing to change? And is it for someone you consider worth it? Would they make the same effort as you? If you do put in this effort, which to you is a big deal and to him possibly not enough or too little too late, is it worth it to you in the end? When the perversion grows and he asks if your friends can join, how will you react then? 5. If it is not worth it to you. Then maybe this isn't the right relationship for you. As uncomfortable as it may be to separate, is it less uncomfortable than continuing knowing the alternative? 50 percent physical attraction 50 percent mental attraction If you don't already try to watch **** with your spouse, see what they like, although perhaps not your preference, then be patient and see what you might like in that category. Do you ********** each other when watching ****? Do you get jealous of the people on TV? Basically you have to, only if you want to and it makes you happy, is meet each other half way, aka he won't budge and you catch up to him perversion wise or understandably if it isn't for you, then perhaps go down different paths in life. It will only grow for him. Will you allow that for yourself? Furthermore, it would be above all else, wise to go to individual and couple's therapy. If it's for someone you love and care for and is meant to be your other half, then it shouldn't be an issue. The point of which is there is a healthy, safe way to have a happy relationship with deviant perversion. Plus, the therapy may unlock and resolve other issues. Along with societal norms of **** being rampant. Equally so is divorce due to one of the partners being addicted to **** and masterbating and sex and all in between. Especially with all those apps and websites of people just meeting up to have sex and then go on their way. It's rampant, everywhere there is a high possibility of being in your husband's life and possibly yours whether you know it or not. So is it better to have him sneak around and lie? Sneak around and be honest? He doesn't need to sneak around because, you know? If so, does he know and you hate it? Or does he know and you're OK with it. As perhaps non instinctual as it may seem, some people are like, "Yeah I don't mind if they go out and F strangers, they love me and come home to me so it's good. They release their perversion on someone else and leave me out of it. Mind you, it will always grow. Rarely if through and ultimatum or if somehow the man on their own is like I have a problem and need to change stuff, no more ****, no more perversion, just my spouse and I and healthier love. This usually only happens when hitting rock bottom, but even if someone does feel and act as such, and changes their lifestyle. It's still part of them, genuinely like PTSD. The reason for infidelity is because something is missing at home. Sexually. Mentally. Financially. Something they are not getting, they seek elsewhere. I'm sorry for potentially upsetting you, but I hope you somewhere in my rambling, there is some good news for you. Above all else, genuine communication. It takes two to tango.

tiptoppc 19

This looks like an A.I. posted this. Derivative and repetitive