It's ok to cry at a funeral, and there's nothing wrong not crying either, since you could be trying to be strong for your family.

Wow what a bitch your mum was! I hope you yelled at her! What an awful thing to say to your daughter! Sorry :(

I'm annoyed w/ comments like #63, #77, and #104. I can totally understand where you're coming from. I've unfortunately been to many funerals, and have a hard time - keeping it together, myself. I've been to a few that have been a bit disturbed by loud wailing. Not that i'm saying ANYTHING bad against the person greiving, but I can see why a person would not want to do that. In the end, it doesn't matter that you cried, or didn't cry, wailed or didn't wail - and your mother should know that. Sometimes people are blinded by grief. I imagine, your mom will come around. What really matters is that you carry a little bit of her in your heart, and she'll never be gone :).

#82: And how the **** would you know? Do you know the OP, seriously? What you don't believe that people's parents are complete *****, and this is probably the OP's mom's mom so that would be a lot more anger. Jack ass.

last week , at MY grandma 's funeral , i cryed sooo much , and REALLY loud , i was soo embarrased , because i couldnt help it . everyone was crying except for the guys cuz they have to be all brave :P and it made me cry even more ... uugh . the worse part , they buried her a minute or so from her house . guess what we passed . and i couldnt cry , that drove me crazy , soo , i wonder why you didnt ? :O

Shame your mum implied your soulessness, but on the other hand it could be worse. My parents suggested I see a therapist because apparently I'm not 'in touch' with my emotions, which apparently means because I don't, for example, cry or show any flicker of well, anything at say a funeral I'm a freak. Perhaps they're right; I just call it thick skinned. But aye, sucks you get the hassle for trying to keep a brave face.

I did almost the same thing at my great gradnmothers funeral. I didn't cry at all. My mom and brother were upset with me over it, saying how I didn't care when I really did. I ended bawling when I got home from the ordeal and they shut up. I'm sorry for your loss. Just remember, everyone deals with grief in their own way.

I didn't cry at my Grandmothers funeral. But then I didn't love her and have often suspected that I have no soul...

i didn't cry when my grandparents died, didn't seem real since they live so far away. but i did cry alot when my cat died cause he was run over and the blood stain on the road took a week to wash away. that must make me evil crying over a cat and not my grandma or grandpa. death hits you in different ways and depending on the situation it's ok to cry and it's ok not to cry.

I have had tons of sad times and deaths with close members... and ive barely ever cried. does that make me a sick ****? No. So don't listen to your mum or dad. They must be idiots.