He could be asexual, OP, or at least somewhere on that spectrum. Or his libido could just be really low. Some people are just like that, which is why discussing these things is very, very important prior to that sort of commitment. You need your needs/desires met just as much as he does, and if you can never fix this problem, it's likely to tear you two apart. If he's asexual, maybe he'd be okay with an open marriage so you can find sexual satisfaction (if you're not opposed)? You need to talk to him ASAP and find a solution that works for the both of you.

Rainbow

Divorce for not having sex? If that's how you think please never get married. A marriage isn't just for sex, and shouldn't become a divorce over not having it.

Sex is a very important part of any romantic relationship. Unless all parties agree beforehand that they want a celibate/asexual marriage, then yes, lack of a fulfilling (or any) sex life is *easily* grounds for divorce if they can't resolve the underlying issues.

That's why God invented premarital sex.

I think that waiting to have sex after marriage is a really old and overrated tradition. You have every right to do it if it's your cup of tea, but don't get to complain afterwards if you are sexually incompatible. It is something you should have looked into. Most people go through many partners to find someone compatible, it's naive to think you'll get it right the first time.

It always gets me how some people are shocked that their sex life is not what they expected when they decide to marry someone they never slept with. It's either really a risky bet to take or you don't consider sex so important. Even if you talked about it beforehand, nothing replaces the real thing. Maybe you can change his opinion on sex by more practice.

Always try before you buy OP. Always.

I wish I could bold print the FYL, OP. Hopefully, if he's not actually adverse to sex, he can at least make an effort sometimes for your sake. At least buy yourself a great vibrator.

There's nothing wrong with cuddling. It sounds like he may be asexual? If so have a talk with him about the possibility of you finding someone to satisfy your sexual needs while he fulfills the others.