Should I Stay or Should I Go?

By Anonymous - 19/09/2016 10:05

Today, my girlfriend contacted me. She said she'd thought over her feelings over our temporary break in the relationship, and she wanted to try again. Being my stupid, self-loathing self, I asked her so many questions on if she was sure or not that she went back into doubt and revoked the offer. FML
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breedles 28

Hey, now... desiring certainty has little to do with self loathing, it sounds like you wanted some security. That's pretty human, don't beat yourself up over it. I'm sorry to hear about your girlfriend though, FYL

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Jared900DUmpling 30

To be perfectly honest what you did may turn out to be a favor to both you and her to avoid future heartbreak. I sympathize, but maybe this will turn out well. Dont get too down about it and try to stay on the bright side

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cj89898 24

All I can think of is "We were on a break!"

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sweetpotato301 7

If she was that doubtful, probably better that you aren't together. It's okay to be sad about it but, thinking into the future, do you really want to be with someone who isn't completely sure that they want to be with you?

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Ya_I_said_it 6

Hey, it's good to be cautious. Better to know now if it doesn't work than waste more time with the wrong person.

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AveeraBlackheart 6

I'm not voting on this post one way or the other. I know a guy that is in a very similar situation to yours, and here's what I told him. If you're that insecure and self-loathing, then you shouldn't be in a relationship. Take some time to be single and focus on yourself as an individual, rather than half of a couple. Being in a relationship will not ultimately change the way you feel about yourself, and it might be in your best interest (as well as whomever it is you were dating/are hoping to date) to avoid getting involved with someone until you've worked through your self-esteem issues. Everyone has things they want to change about themselves. Work on changing those you can, and don't dwell on those you can't.

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martucha854 11

He wanted a clear view of a situation,that doesn't mean he is insecure.

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LyricaSilvan 29

Sounds like me when I get depressed, to be honest. I start to ask my friends if they're sure they even like me and if I'm worth talking to, let alone being friends with. Unlike your so-called girlfriend, they stick around. Sorry to hear that she turned back on her offer, but it was probably better for you in the long run. You don't need that setting off your self-worth concerns. You'll find someone better for you. Just keep trying.

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AveeraBlackheart 6

The key word there is "self-worth". If his issues are that deep-rooted and severe, then he will still constantly be second guessing himself, whether he's in a relationship or not. OP has a problem that nobody else can, or should have to feel responsible for trying to fix. It sucks that she didn't stick around, but it would have been a lot worse if she had decided to give the relationship another try, and then eventually realized that it was a mistake.

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LyricaSilvan 29

I'm not saying he won't still second guess himself, and I never said anyone else should have to fix his issues for him. I'm just trying to give him a little bit of positivity. As someone who suffers with a lot of similar issues, I know what it's like. Sometimes you just need to hear that things can get better. That's all I was trying to do.

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hoosiergirl94 31

Never question good things

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intreker05 5

That sucks, but I really think you did yourself a favor. A lot of people get back into relationships not realizing that the reason they broke up is still there. If she's that uncertain about the relationship, then it's not you, it's her. And there's nothing stupid or self-loathing about wanting to make sure that she's committed and that it's the right thing to do. If she was dedicated, she would have answered all your questions.

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Kers3054 16

Would you rather have her consider your questions now, before you have to break up again OR have her question it further down the road anyway? At least this way you won't be potentially wasting your time.

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SuckMyDeag 5

Holy shit dude I almost did that same thing. What was meant as a cute and caring gesture almost ended as a brutal, and heart wrenching moment id never forgive myself over. **** your life.

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gunnerblaster 21

Honestly, it sounds like -you- don't want the relationship, on some subconscious level.

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