By bluevix - 11/10/2014 01:25 - United States - Stafford
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Thank you, we're working on it together. It isn't an easy process as it is difficult not to take his disinterest personal, and I have taken it personal (especially early on)... but when you are compatible with your spouse in as many ways as we are. Whilst I may enjoy the idea of sexual intimacy more than him, at least I have someone who loves me as much as I do them. We have plenty of activities we enjoy, but he is more of the asexual type that enjoys a good cuddle versus sex. Which I have learned to enjoy more as we continue on in our marriage.
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Ironically, This is an FML without ****.
It was not that serious fml
At least your not cheating. Now it's time to spice up the physical relationship.
Any chance your husband is or could be asexual or gray-asexual?
I believe he is asexual, which is fine, we've had plenty of discussions. I just found this particular knee-jerk response to a nurse... slightly comical. When you grow up with the expectation men want it "all the time" it can be a kick in the gut to marry a man who doesn't seem to care one way or another. I'm a far more sexual person than he is, but I love him dearly.
It could be a hormonal problem. If your husband's testosterone levels are low, that would lower his sex drive. You might want to look into hormonal therapy for him, if you haven't already. I think it's admirable and inspiring that you are loyal in your love to your husband despite his lack of interest in sex, but you have needs too, and it's not fair to you to overlook them. I hope I haven't spoken out of my place and that I've been helpful.
im just worried that while it may be working right now, that it may cause bitterness between the two of them, as op wants sex and her husband doesnt. :/
Gray-asexual?
you'll be ok
hope you will do it soon
op... try finding out why your husband isn't physically active. I remember reading an article stating that men think of sex for almost 5 hours in a day. I really don't know how far that is true. Try talking it out. Hope you guys get a solution to this....
Well you do live in.... Virginia.
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I guess you're not really ****** after all...
Must be why you live in VIRGINia!