U-G-L-Y! You ain't got no alibi! You ugly! Yeah! Yeah! You ugly! ... Of course, that is directed at OP's cousin's attitude, not OP's face.

Well said. The fact that the OP used the word "hoping" makes me think that too much was left un-said.

When I was overweight, I met two kinds of people. The "shame on you" people and the "helpful but annoying" people. The Shame On You People would tell me, "shame on you for being fat and not doing anything about it." These people would have known me five minutes before they would just launch into their soapbox speel about how their lives were so much better and I was a bad example/person/creature for being 56 pounds overweight. Mind you, I had a medical condition at the time that I needed to take a cocktail of medication that made me gain weight because I was lethargic, hungry all the time, sick in bed, or in the hospital. So when I could get out to walk, I would go about half a block before having to sit down. It made it worse when people mocked me for it. The other, helpful people, were almost as bad because they didn't get the hint. I would tell them to stop and they would feel, because they were "helping" that we needed to talk about it all the time. None of this helped, in the least.

I feel when it comes to one's body, it should be left to that person solely.. Now if something internally needed a change other's input should be taken, an example, an overweight person shouldn't be criticised by their weight, but someone with a rude demeanour should be talked to about their behavior, not told out right to change. Acts like that never help, and frankly, piss a lot of people off. It is up to a person whether he/she wants to change, and when.

I'm so sorry that happened to you :(