By Anonymous - 04/09/2009 07:39 - Korea Republic of

Today, I called my girlfriend's parent to ask for her hand in marriage. They were shocked and told me that they would have to refuse. Apparently my girlfriend had told them last week that she had met someone new at work and didn't know how to break it off with me. FML
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Hi, I'm the author of this post. There are a few things I would like to clarify. First, I am from the south, and it is considered respectful to ask the father for his daughter's hand in marriage. This is usually just a formality, but it shows the parents a lot of respect. This is usually done in person. This has nothing to do with viewing someone as property. This was just a gesture of goodwill to her parents. Nothing more. Second, the reason I didn't ask them in person is because I am stationed in Korea for the next year and I won't be able to see them until sometime next year. I WAS planning on asking my ex when I took leave in November so I thought asking over the phone would be ok. But as you can imagine, that isn't going to happen. Third, the idea of us getting married was her idea. I have been in the military 6 years now and I know what deployments do to relationships. I cared a lot about her and to be honest I still do. This actually happened about 3 weeks ago and it is still shocking since we were together for over 2 years. But, after reading a few of the post on here, I understand it could have been a lot worst. She could have totaled my car or killed my dog. So thanks for all of the well wishes, I appreciate it. For those who laughed at this and said that sucks, you know, your right. It does suck. And yes my life sucks (for now)

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rosierosierosie 0

ouch, I'm sorry. At least you didn't actually ask her.

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robocop123426 0

I am from Alabama, a state in the USA. I am serving in South Korea for a 1 year tour.

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jessxoxo28 5

aww, im sorry that really sucks... well i guess its time 4 some1 new

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LocoChaz006 0

Well, at least you got the heads-up before being shot down when you asked her.

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bilias23 0

you called them??? you fr@#$ asked them for their daughters hand on the phone???? wt?!?!

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kukopia 0

Good thought. Parents can have really strange ideals. Better talk it over with her before you do anything else. But I wouldn't expect them to help pay for the wedding. All the big holidays will be spent with your family, so ya got that settled.

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robocop123426 0

Hi, I'm the author of this post. There are a few things I would like to clarify. First, I am from the south, and it is considered respectful to ask the father for his daughter's hand in marriage. This is usually just a formality, but it shows the parents a lot of respect. This is usually done in person. This has nothing to do with viewing someone as property. This was just a gesture of goodwill to her parents. Nothing more. Second, the reason I didn't ask them in person is because I am stationed in Korea for the next year and I won't be able to see them until sometime next year. I WAS planning on asking my ex when I took leave in November so I thought asking over the phone would be ok. But as you can imagine, that isn't going to happen. Third, the idea of us getting married was her idea. I have been in the military 6 years now and I know what deployments do to relationships. I cared a lot about her and to be honest I still do. This actually happened about 3 weeks ago and it is still shocking since we were together for over 2 years. But, after reading a few of the post on here, I understand it could have been a lot worst. She could have totaled my car or killed my dog. So thanks for all of the well wishes, I appreciate it. For those who laughed at this and said that sucks, you know, your right. It does suck. And yes my life sucks (for now)

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anniebananie 3

Could you please clarify? Are you from the South in the US, or from South Korea? I think a lot of people are thinking that you're Korean.

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wingedspiritus 0

I think he just clarified that he at least isn't from Korea. And since he didn't say the country, he probably takes it from granted that everyone thinks he's from the US? Silly lol.

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robocop123426 0

I am from Alabama, a state in the USA. I am serving in South Korea for a 1 year tour.

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theanonimouse 0

If it has nothing to do with the ancient tradition of passing ownership of a daughter from the father to the husband, why would you only ask her father's hand in marriage and not both her parents'? And if they simply hadn't wished for you to marry her, would you have called it off, or was it just a heads-up like, "hey guys, I'm marrying your daughter"? I'm from Mississippi, and asking a father's permission to marry his daughter just smacks of misogyny to me, (even if you yourself weren't aware of its misogynistic origins). Though I'm sure you meant no disrespect through this formality, it helps to look into the background of some Old South "traditions." But I can understand where you're coming from, really... you wouldn't want to offend her family by not asking, if that's what they would expect of you, would you? Eh, it's a clusterfuck. Sorry about the situation, though.

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28actress 22

I know you will find someone better, OP! Chin up, and thank you for serving our country

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OneOnJuanAction 22

You're stupid, he asked both parents.

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RATMRenegade 10

You stupid-**** he literally says he is stationed in South Korea which means, when he says from the South, he is referring to the US

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lexi_cacao 0

Sorry :(... That really is awful

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Subjectzero 0

well, that sound like it went a LOT better than it could have gone if you think about it. still, sucks balls.

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sodahhhr 0

Pardon the swag but bitches cartateLong bread, I don't eat shortcakeHow come I can't miss a womanLike I can't miss court datesCheese but she's not in this portraitLife's fine but I do not portrayI'm on the other side but it is a sharp gate

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sodahhhr 0

Pardon the swag but bitches cartateLong bread, I don't eat shortcakeHow come I can't miss a womanLike I can't miss court datesCheese but she's not in this portraitLife's fine but I do not portrayI'm on the other side but it is a sharp gate

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