Oh... :( I'm sorryy! that really sucks. You'll find someone better that actually deserves you!

Oh, I guess I need to clarify this. After I asked Stacy's parents if I could marry their daughter, they were like wtf. They told me that I needed to talk to her and they couldn't give me their blessing. When I pressed they told me they thought we were already broken up and that Stacy had found someone new. So then I got off the phone with them I called Stacy and when I pressed her she told me that she had "fallen out of love with me" and had met someone new. She didn't know how to tell me so she was trying to let it die. So yeah, I did talk to her about it. The sucky thing was that I had to find out from her parents and not her. But you know, Korea is a hell of a lot more fun when you are single.

OR she, uh... met somebody? Seriously, you must have had some really ****** up relationships in the past because you are one sad, bitter man. :(

You know, not too long ago keeping a woman "in the home" used to be considered tradition, and to fail to do so would show a lack of respect to the woman, (she could be considered "lower-class," or as having failed her duties as a wife, etc), her parents, (for having to deal with their daughter's shame), and the children of the family, (for being deprived of a stay-at-home mother). But to express this opinion today would be unthinkable. Why? Because times change, and therefore traditions should change with them. While not as extreme as this example, it is important that we as a people try to remember the origins of such "traditions" as asking a woman's father for her hand in marriage - and that origin lies in some dangerous misogynistic territory. It's like the tradition of carrying the bride over the threshold of the new home - while many may consider this a romantic gesture, it actually originated in ancient Greece and was often accompanied by the husband's firmly grasping the new bride's wrist, mostly as a show of the husband's authority over his new wife. It's all a matter of perspective. I mean, I guess some people are just fine with ignoring the symbolism and history attached to certain traditions, but I simply can't allow myself to "attach the blinders" and blindly lead my life according to certain predetermined "rules." However, I'd like to make it clear that I'm perfectly fine with someone alerting a woman's parents to his/her plans on proposing to their daughter... you know, just as a heads-up, and as long as it's not just to daddy. :)

#46- you're a moron. he was GOING to ask her. When you ask for someone's daughters hand in marriage, you arent actually ASKING. It's more of a "hey, i know she loves you a lot and we want you to feel included, so i just wanted to let you know that im going to propose to her." but you say it an "can i marry your daughter?" format. honestly. and for those of you that are also from the south but think it's a tradition that needs to die, then DONT do it. whatever, its a personal thing. if you have a family like that- then go on and ask. if they're more modern about this type of thing, then don't. seriously. for example, my father is from mississippi and i know he is expecting for the man that wants to marry me to ask him first. it is just something you do in this particular culture, and if it bothers you that much- then dont think about it. robocop123426 was not trying to BUY anyones daughter. sheesh. yall are making this too complicated, and acting like idiots. does this tradition of asking also come with a dowery? NO. so shut up. its a harmless gesture that makes the parents feel included, after all they raised this woman and want to see that the man she's gonna marry has some respect for them. and no, it doesnt always have to be the father. in fact now a days it isnt just him. but in a situation where maybe the girl only has a mom, or only a dad, or maybe no parents but an aunt, you ask them. ugh you guys are being pretty silly about this.

YDI. You asked her parents to marry her? Did you also offer them money for it? I mean, her.

YDI for being a hundred years behind in the times.

good thing you asked her parents, otherwise you would've been embarrassed when you asked herself in her hand in marriage.

This is why you ask someone if they want to marry you, not their parents. This whole ask-the-parents-for-permission-first thing is ****** up. It's her choice. Perhaps if you respected her enough to acknowledge that then maybe you'd still be together.

I think people who are like "why ask the parents? it's her choice" are so close minded. If the girlfriend didn't object to the guy asking for permission, then why can't he? It might be old fashioned, but some families find the fact that their future son-in-law asking for permission respectful. Especially people in Korea. Just because most American ideals are about individuality doesn't mean that other countries are like that. A lot of countries dwell on family and respect. Personally, while I don't care if my boyfriend asked for permission, if my parents aren't totally okay with him, then I would have to think about it. What's wrong with being respectful? It's like thanking them for bringing her up in the world. Also, having a guy propose is old-fashioned, but no one seems complaining about that.