I kind of agree, but I don't really think you can compare coming out as bisexual to telling someone you cheated on them or to breaking up with someone. Coming out as bisexual isn't some sort of terrible confession, it shouldn't be "so serious" and require a big meet up to talk about it for ages. It can be very hard to come out, so surely you can understand why OP did it over text even if it wasn't the best way to go about it? I'd personally be fine with it if someone came out to me over text, and I'd just appreciate that they had the courage to tell me

Congratulations, you completely misunderstood everything I said. Not once did I say coming out was a terrible confession. I was implying that coming out and confessing to cheating both have the potential to alter your relationship with someone else. I regard that as serious, and those types of things need to be said in person. It's a show of how much the relationship means to you if you can say something difficult to my face, no matter how hard or how scary. As far as it not requiring a big meeting and discussing it for ages, you once again misunderstood me. The first (and only, actually) time someone came out to me, it was over instant messaging, which clearly implies it was several years ago. It was ten years ago, to be more specific, at a time where people tended to keep quiet about their sexuality and coming out was a much bigger deal than it is today, especially in the homophobic area we grew up in. I wish she had told me in person so we could dicuss things for ages, as you put it, because I didn't understand sexualities other than my own. I didn't understand the struggle she would face because of intolerant people like I was at the time. If we had had that experience, rather than an instant message, I probably would have been less of a jerk about it. Maybe our friendship wouldn't have gone to shit and she would still be my friend. Yes, I understand that coming out is hard. No, I don't understand telling someone over text. Courage is telling someone something difficult to their face. If you're so flippant about, good for you. But don't complain when you get a response that is equally uncaring.

Okay I could've worded that better- I think it's fine to want to ask questions, I think it's fine to want to talk about it in person at some point. I just think that if you really care about someone you should be able to understand why they might want to say things over a text or a message first and cut them some slack. When I came out as bisexual, I told a couple of people over text first because I was just really scared as to how they'd react. It wasn't because I was "uncaring".

Then we shall agree to disagree.