By Anonymous - 20/11/2015 19:27 - United States - Clearwater

Today, I found out my coworker was arrested for beating the crap out of his wife. I gave him a serious pep talk yesterday where I told him to stop taking her shit and start standing up for himself. FML
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nyf137 20

Sorry OP, how could you have known that he would take your advice to such an extreme? Hopefully she's alright

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Fairyjoshy 13

Oh dear. I kinda wanna know all of the details. If you had given advice to a female coworker with husband and she had beaten him, people would have automatically assumed that it was in response to physical abuse and *he* would have been the one arrested even if she didn't have a scratch on her. So rather than assume anything, I'd really like to know more of what happened. She could have been physically abusive and he was just defending himself. Or maybe he lost his temper and beat her over some mediocre stuff. Still, if he really beat the shit out of her, I still feel sorry for her. And for you, since your advice inadvertently led to that. You have my sympathy.

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LuckBeNimble 19

*only sane comment*

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gracehi 31

Not even remotely true. Women get arrested for domestic violence all the time. The law lays the blame for domestic violence on whoever has no or the least serious injuries, no matter who started the fight. Often the one who was attacked first will get arrested because their self defense was too effective and their attacker ended up with a worse wound. Thus, people often get arrested simply for defending themselves, whether they're male or female.

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iiTzNeeNerz 26

Well, can't say he didn't listen. Instead waiting for her to give him shit, he went ahead and beat it out of her.

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thisguy22 33

I think you just found your new career. Motivational speaker. Terrible situation aside, I think it's kind of obvious you'd be great at it. Also, don't let this weigh on your mind too much OP. I really don't think people can be talked into doing something like this if they don't actually already want to do it. This most likely would have happened with or without your pep talk...

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mixximoo 24

It's not your fault OP no one can make someone beat up someone else, that is entirely their choice.

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gracehi 31

Don't blame yourself. He's an adult and responsible for his own behavior. And that shit doesn't just happen out of nowhere. Either she's been abusive and he finally cracked, or he's been abusive this whole time and has been playing the pathetic whipped husband act in public to allay suspicion. Whatever the situation, it likely would have happened anyway.

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Dexter83_fml 17

OP do not feel responsible you did not tell him to do that. People are responsible for their own actions

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spudking 19

There's a subtle difference between standing up for yourself and beating someone.

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worldclassrager 39

I sure hope that advice doesn't go towards his supervisor as well

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snarkytruth 37

Never give relationship advice. You don't know what happens behind closed doors. Especially when you don't have the full story or the other persons side of things. Leave the counseling and therapy sessions to the professionals.

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