I was just about to say - she could be having a small wedding with no bridesmaids etc. Or she may have children or nieces who are going to be bridesmaids. The punch thing is probably to make you feel a part of the wedding party.

No, not at all, her wishes must not be honored. What a strange idea. What if she requested that OP stand still while everyone spits on her? Are you saying that OP should do it because her wishes and choices are not important, just because someone else is getting married that day? If OP doesn't want to do it, she doesn't have to. It's her life, she has only one life, and every single day of her life is all about her. It's her sister's-in-law choice to decide that OP be a serving maid instead of maid of honor. It's OP's choice if she decides to take offense and refuse. Don't try to make it look like one choice is more valid than another.

If and when I get married, I would make sure any sister/brother in law would be of higher status than someone who serves punch to people I probably know half as well. FYL OP, this sister in law of yours is a jerk.

How is it being a bridezilla? She has not made unreasonable demands of the OP - the OP, by the sounds of it, didn't voice an objection to help serve at the wedding. We all, also, have friends that rank us differently to how we rank them - the girl I call my closest friend has her own, different, 'best' friend and the girl I was maid of honour to was not asked to be in my wedding party because there were others I deemed to be closer to me. Are any of us offended by these things? No, because we're adults. If OP is throwing a strop from being excluded from someone else's bridal party, regardless of their history, than it's probably a good thing she wasn't asked - god forbid she gets presented with a dress she doesn't like. I will grant her this though - being asked to serve the punch is a little demeaning. I understand that FML limits the words so OP had no space to write whether or not this is something special (an alcohol free wedding where the served punch is what will be toasted) or whether it is simply serving punch. The bride could have showed a little more tact there but as far as bridezilla goes, no, the bride acted well within her bounderies. You don't 'owe' someone a MOH slot just because you were their MOH; what a stupid and childish assumption.

Because she still could have made OP a bridesmaid...

You don't ask guests to act as hired help.

My mom had only a MoH and no bridesmaids at her wedding because that's how she wanted it. Don't take offense. It's her day, not yours.

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Haha i like how you added the bitch at the end. Clearly this female is a bitch, im guessing idiot groom who doesnt know what hes getting himself into...

Yeah, a real punch in the duckface.