By Uknowwh - 04/11/2009 01:12 - United States

Today, I found out that my best friend and the guy I had a crush on for 2 years are getting married. The worst part is that they've been dating for 2 years in secret, and just came out about it now. I've been telling her for 2 years how much I like him, and she's encouraged me the whole time. FML
I agree, your life sucks 54 281
You deserved it 4 129

Same thing different taste

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dc_elite 0

that sux but u should of made the move earlier and ur friend is a fake bitch

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lady_unknown 0

She got the nerve to encourage you? Well then, YDI for not having enough courage to pursue the guy that will eventually ruining your friend's hidden agenda.

mrzero 0

fool you waited too long. now it's belong to some one n you enjoy the show

MaddogTotten 0

You can't blame her. If you really do love him then you understand how she feels and why she is going through with it anyway. If she was encouraging you then that means that she was giving you a chance to step up so she could back down. The fact that you never did means that she got sick of waiting for you and acted on her own feelings. You should respect her relationship and realize that you were more worried about being rejected/embarrassed than you were about being with your crush. That probably means that it was a mere infatuation and you should just get over it. If it really was love then you wouldn't have worried about the consequences, you would have just gone for it.

Maybe, but she was already dating him. Her friend knew that her boyfriend didn't have feelings for the poster, so encouraging her was pointless. A real friend would have said at the get-go, "I'm really sorry, _____, but we're dating." To spring "We're married!" on a friend you've been 'encouraging' is not only a slap in the face, but must've made the poster feel like she'd been nothing but a joke among them for the last 2 years.

MaddogTotten 0

That could be true, but we don't know how long they were dating. Hell, we don't even know if the crush had feelings or not for the OP. The sad truth is that people will eventually go on living their lives with or without you. If you spend all your time waiting for something to randomly happen without any initiative on your part, the without you is a lot more likely.

They were dating for 2 years, it clearly says like 3 times, hahaha ...and how in a sane person's mind you do NOT tell her your dating her crush being "best friends"?? probably OP's friend was trying to be nice and give her a chance, but that was waaaay unnecessary...u_u 2 years...wow

Flutist 3

I agree. While I understand "going for it" and letting your friend "have a chance" it sounds more like Op was a joke. Op has liked the guy as long as her friend has been dating him. It seems like the friend liked him too and just had more guts to go for it. Despite that, it was wrong of her friend to encourage her.

my roommate had a crush on my bf (when we were just getting to know each other and not together yet) and i told her to tell him so that him turning her down would be a reality check. maybe that's what OPs friend was trying to do. and even though it says "dating for 2 years" what it could really mean is they were "hooking up for 2 years and it meant nothing until one day it did but that's not a story for the grandkids so we'll just say dating for 2 years".

kboing 0

You deserve it if you haven't done anything about your crush for 2 years.

You didn't make a move on your crush in 2 years? You 'best friend' dated someone secretly for 2 years, and you never got suspicious? YDI for being a wimp and an idiot.

rairai897 0

ok, where the hell is ur evidence that they didnt try anything? u have no evidence, it never says they did or didnt, this person's BEST FRIEND lied to them, u have no proof her friend was going to back down, so umm... shut up, have a heart and a brain and read a little

fdeg4161 13

That still sucks on an epic level. She probably never made a move because, like many, she was afraid of being turned down.

damn what friends u have, but u should have made a move, maybe things would have been different

Why date in secret? And for 2 years? wtf? And all the while never telling you that you you don't have a chance? ****** up. But seriously, what's the point in dating in secret for that long? :/