Love: Today, I found out why my boyfriend of 5 years won't propose/marry...

By Ashley - 03/05/2016 04:25 - United States - San Antonio

Today, I found out why my boyfriend of 5 years won't propose/marry me. He would rather wait for his estranged wife to meet someone, fall in love, decide to get married, and do the filing herself. He doesn't want to pay the couple of hundred dollars for the uncontested divorce filing. FML

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By KortniiE - 23/03/2021 20:01

Today, my boyfriend of 3 years proposed without a ring. He told me he would get it once his divorce papers are final. I didn't know he was married. FML

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By F your brackets - 26/03/2023 12:00 - United States - Miami

Today, my boyfriend is 34 years-old. We’ve been together for 5 years. He refuses to propose to me because “marriage is expensive” and “kids drain your wallet.” That would be understandable if he hasn’t spent the majority of his paychecks on March Madness. FML

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By Agata - 21/12/2009 16:15 - United States

Today, my boyfriend of 3 years announced that he is not ready for marriage, and won’t be for 'at least' another 2 years. Of course he waited to tell me this 2 days after he had proposed to me in front of hundreds of people, I said yes, and we announced it to all our family members and friends. FML

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By Anonymous - 18/03/2014 14:56 - Japan

Today, I found out my ex just got engaged to a girl he met 3 months ago, shortly before he ended our 5 year relationship. His reason for breaking up was that he didn't believe in marriage and couldn't be with someone who wanted to get married. Right. FML

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By how bout no! - 09/10/2020 17:01 - United States - Hesperia

Today, my boyfriend of 5 years said that he wants to marry and spend his life with me. But first he wants to go be wild and single for a few years before settling down. Not only does he not see a problem with this, he expects me to wait and be faithful to him while he “gets it out of his system”. FML

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By Anonymous - 03/07/2009 23:25 - United States

Today, my boyfriend called me explaining that he is getting married this weekend to a woman he met on Craigslist. Why? Because I won't marry him, and he'll make an extra thousand dollars per month having a wife since he is in the army. FML

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Hope springs eternal

By Anonymous - 13/06/2022 10:00 - United States

Today, my girlfriend rejected my proposal, claiming she refuses to get married until she finally finds her dad, so he can walk her down the aisle. Babe, he walked out when you were 7 and hasn't been seen or contacted you since. Just say you don't wanna marry me so we can both move on. FML

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By Anonymous - 22/06/2010 20:12 - United States

Today, my boyfriend of over 2 years said he wants to get married before he leaves for basic training. Not because he loves me, but because he'll get paid more if he's married. This is the only time he's been excited about marriage. FML

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By undanya__four - 10/04/2015 20:19 - United Kingdom - Bristol

Today, my boyfriend told me he's prepared to commit to marriage, but only if I buy my own ring and tell everyone he surprised me with it. FML

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By Anonymous - 10/02/2016 15:32 - United States - Wexford

Today, my aunt informed me that my dad thinks my boyfriend is a loser deadbeat because he hasn't proposed to me after two years of dating and co-habitation. He hasn't asked because I already made it very clear I have no interest in marriage. FML

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jentrynicole 20

Tuesday 3 May 2016 17:33

You didn't think it was odd that your boyfriend has been married for the 5 years you've been together and hasn't even tried to get divorced?

Magnoxidans 19

Tuesday 3 May 2016 17:34

You have to wonder if he really loves you that much or if he's committed if such an arbitrary amount of money is stopping him from moving on...

Comments

aminehs 10

Wednesday 4 May 2016 2:46

Sounds like a keep to me..

juuuliaaa_fml 26

Wednesday 4 May 2016 3:52

If he cheated on his wife for so long, he will do the same to you.

zaidthunder1 27

Wednesday 4 May 2016 4:28

There are lazy people and then there are lazy people.

beantownchivette 8

Wednesday 4 May 2016 5:26

And the fact that he's still married thing wasn't a red flag?!? Sounds like he's not worth any more time and aggravation

trucker2 33

Wednesday 4 May 2016 5:52

Some church's must give approval for a divorce, depends on religion...

betweenwinds 18

Wednesday 4 May 2016 6:43

While that's true, the boyfriend isn't waffling about because he wants the church to annul the marriage. He's doing it because he's too cheap to pay the fee to get divorced.

writergirl1029 17

Wednesday 4 May 2016 7:14

Never date someone who is still married, even if they say their marriage is "over". The divorce has to be final.

gracehi 31

Wednesday 4 May 2016 17:32

I started dating a new boyfriend before my divorce was finalized. He's my husband now. Not everyone who starts dating before their divorce is finalized is avoiding commitment to a new person.

Sandman0351 13

Wednesday 4 May 2016 9:31

Do these people not hear themselves??? Look, just because someone loves someone else doesn't mean they'll throw money away if they don't have to. Money isn't love. If OP loved and cared for her boyfriend then she'll wait. Just because you love someone no matter how much..Doesn't mean you should spend money all the time. I keep seeing comments about "if they love you then he would've done it" Not true. For a divorce its a lot harder financially on a guy than the woman. Especially if there's a kid or more involved. Thanks. Good day bitches I'm out.

CaptMacLeod 45

Wednesday 4 May 2016 12:07

Jeez. When my ex and I split, we didn't bother getting divorced, as everything was amiable between us. As I had no plans to get remarried, this worked out fine. The moment I decided to propose to the woman I'd been dating, I began the process. Your boyfriend needs to realize that you are more important than a couple-hundred bucks!

GamerMom392 19

Thursday 5 May 2016 17:14

Since they've taken away the "you deserve it" option, YOU DESERVE IT. Even assuming you didn't know he was still married, five years go by, and you don't question what he's waiting for? And if you did know, shame on you for dating a married man!

Catdragon 40

Friday 6 May 2016 0:45

As an Ashley, I feel for you. But really, 5 whole years went by? Surely you would have met some of his friends/family and they would have known about it.