They're already married...

Aaaaand there it was! I k we it wouldn't take to long for the "it's time to leave him" comments came out. Relationships take work. He simply needs to understand that. A talk is needed more than a divorce.

Some people seem beyond help and hard work.

#37, if he's more upset about missing a pub crawl with his friends than seeing his wife graduate with her PhD, there's something seriously wrong there. They need marriage counseling, not just a talk.

Then say that as opposed to the cliche "maybe he's not right for you" comment. As you said yourself, they need counseling. Relationships take work. So don't be hypocrite, young and "not boring" accountant.

You see, there's this thing called a divorce....

You're a creep for bringing up my profile on an FML.

You're a bit sensitive to be on this sort of website. Don't post things if you're unable to handle other people's comments. Here. I built you a bridge. Now cry yourself a river, and get over it.

Guess you woke up on the bitch side of the bed today? Slow down on the haterade, dude. What the hell did I do to you to deserve the personal attacks? Keep it relevant, please.

I don't understand why people think it's so easy to just go get a divorce because of one thing and their life will be the same. It's not like you're just breaking up with someone, you are throwing away a perfectly good marriage. I think all that is needed is a serious talk and maybe get his friends to persuade him to go to the graduation.

#76: I should ask you the same. Who pissed in your cheerios? Now seriously, if you don't like what people say about your comments, that's fine. But you send me a nasty personal message and then call me a creep over the public comments to look like a victim? So practice what you preach and keep it relevant. Talk about can't take what you dish out...

What are you talking about????

Read the comments. Or if you'd like, I could draw you a picture. Anyway, I'm officially ignoring you now. Now please go away.

I sense some tension here...

Really? Where did you get that vibe from? :P

Not sure how you jumped from OP's username being 'married life' to OP blaming married life for her husbands actions. Jumping the gun, are we?

I reckon. 'Married life' does not insinuate either something wholly good or wholly bad. Even the best marriages aren't all plain sailing.

I didn't even go to my own.

#24 - haha neither did I. I didn't go to my high school or college graduation. I'd rather be out celebrating than stuck in a seat waiting for one name to be called out of the hundreds of others. I went to my brother's graduation when I was younger and fell asleep on the bleachers. I decided that I would never again torture myself like that.

@24 - I didn't go to my high school graduation, but my girlfriend went because apparently my graduation was more important to her than it was to me. Everyone congratulated her as though I was there.

I think he's more upset at the fact he made plans and she made assumptions. A graduation like this is something you should write on the calendar and make a point of making sure he's going to be there. Just to avoid situations like this one. I'm not gonna vote YDI, but I can see where the wires got crossed up.

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Seriously? Read comment #28. Assclown.

wires got crossed? he would have known about an impending graduation since op started her phd or at least the lasr six months of it.

call me old fashioned, but i would call teaching your children to be verse to semi-intelligent rodents and bad pizza a good parenting choice. :p

He /should/ have known about it. Now you're making assumptions too.

no i am not making assumptions. it is impossible for anyonr close to you not to know you are doing something big in thier lives. where did he think shr was all the time? she will have mentioned graduating at least once because thats what couples do, they talk

I'm pretty sure that if couples actually talked the divorce rate in America wouldn't be over 40%.

Yeah I agree, I would be really proud to tell my friends I can't come because my wife is getting her PhD.

lol. "Damn woman I swear you get on of those things every week!!!"

That's cool. Now when he asks for money when she's making tons of money he can go suck a knob.

You'd make such a supportive partner.

When you graduate you assume the one you love will be there and support you. OPs husband should go. I think your wife graduation is more important than some pub.

But that's you. Not everyone who earns/earned a PhD is like that. This is a HUGE event for her in her life. Her husband shouldn't feel like he's forced to be there. He's her husband! He should WANT to be there for her. It's sad that her husband would rather drink with his friends :/

#72, have you BEEN to a graduation of even a moderately-sized college? They take many hours and they rattle off the names like auctioneers on crack. You have to follow the program carefully to make sure you don't miss your person's name. And often, people getting advanced degrees are treated like shit compared to those getting bachelor's degrees. When your thesis committee announces that they have accepted your thesis, that is when the thrill happens.

Well yeah, I have been to a college graduation for one of my old friend's older brother. Sure it was hard to hear the names being called and sure it was uncomfortable sitting there for hours. But I still feel like her husband should be honored to go - since he IS married to her. I also don't see why PhD graduates would get treated worse than Bachelors...

#100, because the vast majority of recipients at a typical commencement are bachelor's degrees (and an even vaster majority of the other audience), they are not particularly attentive or respectful when the higher degrees are handed out. Besides, if you are getting a Ph.D., you've been through high school, bachelor's and maybe even master's commencements and that's enough already! You should have figured out what a bogus sham the ceremony is. I'd rather go on a pub crawl. . .

You still don't get it though! All those previous ceremonies are precious moments in OP's life! Personally, I think that her husband shouldn't express that type of attitude. You're supposed to support your spouse no matter what. Even if he still was like "Ugh not another one...", for goodness sakes! He should be there for her!

#107, go to a few more of those boring clusterfucks and then come back to talk to me. Colonoscopies are pivotal moments in my life, butt I don't go inviting loved ones to attend.

How do you know she's not speaking at the ceremony? Even if not, it means something to her, and if he can't give up one day for something meaningful to his wife, he's being selfish.