If you would consider an abortion, you don't deserve to raise a child

While the OP has the right to dislike children the way this was written was very heartless and mean also adoption isn't as good as very one thinks there are thousands of children waiting to be adopted a lot of kids go their whole lives switching from home to home some of them aren't even wanted. I was in foster care most of my life. I was never adopted. Also I have an implant in my arm that's prevented me from having a child ever since I had my daughter there are different more affective types of birth control.

I you both hate children then at least one of you should've gone to get either tubes tied or vasectomy if not both

Forgive me if I'm wrong, but by the time it's too late for an abortion, didn't you have at least 2-3 months time to realize "uh oh, I got a bun in the oven, better hit cancel!" Seriously, how absent minded could you get? YDI. Unless you're one of those people who has really irregular periods. Then maybe you have an excuse. But still.

sickening to get an abortion. adoption is a better option and should be considered. you both should get fixed so this doesn't happen again!

Clearly you don't realize condoms and hormonal BC arent 100%

OP, I understand your not wanting kids. I was dead set against it until my 30s and now I haven't been able to carry to term. It sucks you now have to put your body through such a traumatic event for a baby you don't want. But know there are many loving would-be parents out there who will give that child a good life and be very grateful to receive their ultimate dream, should adoption be your choice. Good luck, and I hope the best for you and your husband.

Why does everyone say ydi? This shit happens! There are forms of birth control that don't give you periods so you may not know until you're pretty far along.

stupids

Okay, to every saying that it's OP's fault, for all you know they were using every kind of protection available, and still got pregnant. Vasectomies cause discomfort for men, and trying to find a doctor to tie your tubes or remove the plumbing is damn near impossible in most places for women who are 'young,' because of social bullshit that every woman should have children. Especially the IDIOTS who say "It will be different when it's your own!" Not noticing can be really easily explained in that not every pregnancy causes side effects, and weight gain, especially weight gain that would have been over the Winter Holidays, can be thought of as being caused by simply eating more for no particular reason. As for the "why are you even looking at abortion, you should only ever consider putting them up for adoption," let me explain something to you. Approximately 70000 kids go into the adoption system in a year; only about 54000 of children leave it in any given year. 30000 children leave the adoption system as adults, with no adoptive family. Children in the adoption system are far more likely to face abuse and neglect, including sexual and physical abuse. Children in the adoption system are more likely to have mental, emotional, and/or physical disorders, with some being placed their because of the disorders, but many develop disorders as a result of mistreatment and neglect from both state caregivers and foster families. Children that are lucky enough to be placed in a permanent home tend to have a wait period of 3 years. Finally, of American citizens, 40% of adults have considered adoption. If 1 in 500 of those people followed through, the adoption system would be emptied. So, to all of you saying "I'd adopt your baby," I call bullshit.