No one really cares. And "at least" are two words.

#31 no one cares that no one cares.

#31 you just posted the most pointless comment in the world. we don't really care tht you don't care. some people like learning about people.

Or she just didn't want to marry him. You never HAVE to say yes.

I understand the reason behind it but normally it's the big question that's suppose to sweep them off their feet. That's like your parents telling you what you got for Christmas then opening that package. Ruins all the extra special feelings.

While I understand how proposing may be romantic as a surprise, I couldn't agree with this more. It is just so much smarter to discuss future plans before hand to avoid disasters like this and many other unpleasant surprises.

You could at least have a discussion about where you both see the relationship heading. That doesn't mean you have to propose right then and there, but at least you'd have an idea of what your partner wants.

It's also hard to hint without giving the suspicion to your intent.

My husband and I talked about getting married eventually for a year before he proposed and he still blew me off my feet when he did. OP if you never discussed it and she was taken completely off guard by your proposal then maybe you should have reconsidered it. If you'd take about it before and she seemed open to the idea of marriage and then did that when you proposed, the FML sorry that happened.

My brother and his wife discussed it before their marriage. At the proposal she still teared up because it's the thought that you will potentially be spending the rest of your life with the person asking that counts, not the simple question.

My husband and I discussed it after I dropped a lot of hints. I wasn't at all surprised when he proposed, but I was still excited and happy. Discussing things first doesn't necessarily take away the excitement, unless he straight up tells you exactly when he's going to ask and what he's going to do.

My boyfriend (now fiance) asked me beforehand if it was okay to propose in front of my family. It doesn't hurt anything to know ahead of time, and it spares the possibility of hurt feelings.

#62 sorry to sound ignorant but how do you start that conversation? Just one day look up and say "so you want to get married eventually or what?". Or is it because you both get to a point where you can just start talking about things like that or kids or owning property together, etc? When's the right time?

The funny thing about talking about marriage is that unless you come out and ask "would you like US to be married?" in some manner it can still bite you in the arse. I had one friend, in a long-term relationship with a girl; they had talked about marriage and she was interested in getting married eventually. When he finally proposed, she was all... "I love you... but I can't see myself married to you" - everyone was floored who heard about it.

#103 I know the question wasn't addressed to me, but I recently had this conversation with my bf so I'll take the liberty of answering. We were just hanging out like usual, and my bf asked me where I envisioned our relationship going in the future. I asked him to specify (it's such a vague question) so he then asked whether one day I'd be interested in getting married with him, if he was the type of guy I wanted to be with my whole life. And I answered that I definitely wanted to, but not for another couple of years. That way he knows that we are both on the same page when it comes to commitment, yet he also knows how soon is too soon for me, and since it'll be a while before he proposes it can still be a "surprise" for me :) Hope this answers your question.

103: lucky for me, Valentine's Day and my birthday fall back to back, so of course while he was fishing for ideas as to what I wanted for the occasions, I was able to drop some hints. Of course, my husband could not fully decipher them and went to his best friend/sister-in-law and my best friend and asked them both what the hell I was hinting at, so they told him. He then asked me if they were right, because he sure didn't want to screw that one up and get me an engagement ring when I was asking for something completely different. From there, we had the where this relationship is going talk in full. We had already talked about kids and marriage, etc, since I already had one child, but hadn't really brought up us getting married and having children. Sorry for the long post.

So it was about him putting the picture together, but then talked to you properly to get the truth to be sure. Thanks for the reply.