Since when is repeatedly trying to force yourself on someone NOT an "active threat?"

So if somebody you didn't know got drunk and forced them self onto your significant other, you're just gonna stand there and watch?

Let me put it this way: the lady cop was sexually harassing OPs husband. That right there is threatening.

lol if it was a man forcing himself on a woman and the boyfriend punching, no one would say anything

She was an active threat. She was forcing herself on her husband. In America, we call that Sexual Assault. OP was totally within reason to punch a chick out.

So she was trying to sexually assault her husband, and she didnt have the right to defend him? REALLY?!

Probably too drunk to remember

If I know anything about cops, it's that they tend to stick together. Great when there's a dangerous situation. Not so great when one of them has committed an actual crime. FYL, OP.

The only thing that would tip me off to is that she likes bad puns. Nothing wrong with that, but I don't assume that everyone who says "are you a general? Because my privates are standing at attention" is in the army.

Exactly what I was thinking- he's a grown ass man and if he doesn't want to go there, he would make that very clear and without assaulting them and if it becomes a problem, it's time to leave. Is there some kind of trust issue with your husband? And why do women always get angry at the "other women?" Half the time I'm sure cheaters would lie about their relationship status.

I always wonder about that. I suspect some men like the attention and are...less forceful in saying no sometimes.

If she's drunk enough and aggressively flirtatious enough to warrant a solid cross to the nose, unsuccessful rebukes on his part don't seem to be so far-fetched.

"Kept trying" sounds like he kept trying to refuse and she wouldn't take no for an answer. And sadly, op hitting her would be taken better than a male hitting her despite him being the one harassed.

Well let's see how it would be if the genders were reversed. A girl is having a nice night out with her SO. Some random drunk dude starts flirting with her. She says no, but he ignores her and keeps trying to physically force himself onto her. Her husband sees this other man repeatedly harassing her and trying to force himself onto her inappropriately despite being repeatedly asked to stop, so he goes and punches said man. Now, would people be telling the girl it was "her own fault" and "if she TRULY didn't like it, why didn't she just leave," and that obviously the husband in this case punched the other dude because he has "trust issues" rather than because of the fact the other dude was sexually harassing the girl? And before anyone pulls the "oh but the husband would be stronger than a girl..." a) we have no idea how strong he is, he could be a weaker dude b) if the lady is a cop, chances are she works out and is fit (at least more than the average girl)

well, we don't really know that the husband was refusing the advances. thats the question I had. what was the husband doing. I find it hard to believe he had problems telling her no. thats why I don't thing gender reversal arguments work here.

The "kept trying" rather than "was trying" means either he was refusing or op was refusing.

What does the phrase "forcing herself onto [him]" mean to you? Because to me, it sounds like she was being physically and sexually aggressive. Most men are uncomfortable defending themselves against women because of the old "you should NEVER hit a woman" spiel. None of this sounds like his fault.